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is it bad to think of being with a teacher!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i picked french for an option as i went intio yr 10 last yr and we got this new teacher, he was from france and seemed really nice. he was charming, had a nice smile and was a really nice bloke. i think he's in his 30's though, he wouldn't say.

im not going to see him until we get back to school after the holidays, and im on my work.e at the mo

but me and my mate talk to him in class and we joke around and that (as well as getting on with work) and i grown to like him, like loads. i always looked forward to the french lessons. i feel so comfortable around him and when we talk my mate says she reckons he fancies me. she says she catches him lookin at me and its weird coz i see him do that to. we went on a french trip not long ago and we stayed together when looking through this castle. he felt lie a close mate on that trip.

when my teacher came to check on me for work.e today he said my french teacher sends his best wishes and that he wish he came. my feeling are getting stronger for him and i know that student-teacher relationships are illegal and im 16 this yr and if he asked me out i'd go. he isnt' married and he doesn't have a gf either. most people would say i'm living in a fantasy and just dreamin, but it's his muturity im impressed with and how i feel when im with him. he doesn't treat me like a student, unless theres other teachers int he room!

i would like to know if anyone has been like this with a teacher or older guy/women and what happend.
and would seeing him be wrong?

thanx for reading :)

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im not dismissing your feelings but its a crush, and its soooo normal. I had a crush on one or two teachers when i was at school and at the time I would have sworn I loved them, but its fantasy. He probably can see youre a nice person and could well be fond of you, but that doesnt mean he likes you in THAT way . If he did, he would lose his Job and be blacklisted so it wouldnt be worth it for him for a start.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hehe, this reminds me of my French Assistant, he was absolutely crazy. He would walk about in big baggy checkered trousers, and got the boot after he got caught downloading gay porn in the French staff base. Hilarious he was :D

    Anyway back on topic. Try really hard to control this, it is just a crush like rainbow says. Which, in itself, there is nothing at all wrong with, as long as you can keep your feelings under control and know that it can only be a crush.

    I've been there, I genuinely wanted to shag my English teacher for two years. But I knew from the start it was just a harmless fantasy that would never come real. Turned into a running joke in the end. But damn, she was hot :D:D

    Anyway, be sensible.

    Good luck
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by atomic brian
    Hehe, this reminds me of my French Assistant, he was absolutely crazy. He would walk about in big baggy checkered trousers, and got the boot after he got caught downloading gay porn in the French staff base. Hilarious he was :D

    I wish I had been in your school!
    I would have fully grilled him!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by xxLaydee_Icexx


    I wish I had been in your school!
    I would have fully grilled him!

    Why?

    And sugar, you'll just have to ride it out, like everything else. It is a fantasy world, and no matter how much you deny that fact, you could never be with him. Aside from being old enough to be your father, he is also a teacher, and whilst not illegal per se, it would spell the end of his career for sure, and certainly wouldn't do a lot to your dignity either. Ok, fine, you don't care about all that, I'm sure - but you might if it actually happened. If suddenly everyone at school started looking at you cock-eyed, if you became the butt of jokes. Not worth it, I can assure you.

    So just ride it out. Drool all over him, revel in his attention, flirt with him if you have to, but you can never be with him, and the sooner you get that into your head, the better for everyone concerned.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    erm...
    Originally posted by Turtle


    Why?

    1. For downloading gay porn in school
    2. For downloading gay porn in school and getting caught!

    :D:p:D

    Edited because Turtle's got a point!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Re: erm...
    Originally posted by xxLaydee_Icexx


    1. For downloading gay Porn
    2. For downloading gay porn in school
    3. For downloading gay porn in school and getting caught!

    :D:p:D

    Whilst the last two are abhorable in that the act was committed in an educational establishment, the first point on that list really is nothing for you to be concerned about, unless you wish to be branded a homophobe, in which case you'll certainly get an earful from a lot of people.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It ain't going to happen dear.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes, it is a crush, don't act on it, not only is it illigeal for profs to 'see' their students but things will just be wierd between the two of you when you are in class and so forth (especially if it a sex-based relationship) i've had a few experiences with dating professers (don't worry, i wasn't a student of them at the time so i didn't jeopardize their career <-- that would be very selfish, and number 1 reason why you shouldn't go for them) so i know from expereince. its better to stay away (you also get a huge bad rep)
    plus, not to be a bitch here, but people of that age have a lot more experience than you do and they know when somebody likes them, therefore they will act nice and so forth as not to hurt your feelings, but they probably dont' feel the same way you do
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Re: erm...
    Originally posted by xxLaydee_Icexx


    1. For downloading gay porn in school
    2. For downloading gay porn in school and getting caught!

    :D:p:D

    Edited because Turtle's got a point!

    I'd ask to see the porn ! ;):D:)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Back to the point though, he probably, or shouldn't take it further if he cares about his job.

    Just keep it as a schoolgirl crush, it will soon wear off when you get a boyfriend, or another teacher comes along ! :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi!
    I think that everyone at some stage fancies one of their teachers, it's happened to me and it's happened to loads of my friends. It's just one of those things I guess, you need something to make you look forward to school and having a crush on a teacher can make it that little bit more exciting!
    Like someone else said, this teacher may be fond of you because he knows that you like him. He may just really appreciate knowing that one of his students seems to like him (as a good teacher).
    Please don't try to take things further, it will only ruin how you view him. Sometimes fantasies are best kept in your head. If you did try to take this further, the relationship that you have may be destroyed and things will become uncomfortable for you both. You also don't want him to loose his job. Just be glad that you do get on very well and try and leave things as they are.
    Don't fret flower, sometimes you just have to grin and bear it.
    Loads of love
    Kazooz xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Three words to help you out of this quandary....

    Get. A. Life.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kermit
    Three words to help you out of this quandary....

    Get. A. Life.

    Subtle. Thought of the Diplomatic Corps, have you? ;)

    Teachers are not really somewhere you should go. As has been said; keep it in your head. It's unlikely to work out in reality and the fantasy may be better.

    Certainly, it will be safer.

    :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Most teenagers go through the common phase of having a crush on a teacher. It's only to be expected. Whether or not you think this is some magical relationship you have with him, the fact is, you are a student and he is your teacher. Nothing is going to happen, and if you attempted so, his job will most definetely be sacrificed.

    These feelings you have for him are most probably to do with the fact that he is much older, therefore more mature, and you've compared him to the blokes in your age-group, and there is most obviously a difference. The way he treats you - caring and respectful, understanding etc. But as a teacher, it's his job to be this way.

    Yeah, I went through this too, actually not long ago, it was a rather pathetic crush on a particular teacher who i flirted with etc. Obviously nothing happened, I soon got over it and realised the sadness of all.

    Look at him as your teacher, even as a friend but nothing more, because believe me, it would all end in tears. As somebody mentioned before, take advantage of the fact he is a nice teacher, keep enjoying your french lessons with him.... but a relationship with him? Don't go there.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Three words to help you out of this quandary....

    Get.A. life

    Useful information is wanted thankyou, and thanx for those who did. i'm sure i'll get over it, but it's never wrong to think he's fit rite! i know i would never ask him out or try anything on, i was just wondering what would happen. thanx for the help peeps.
    and kermit? did you think i was really obsessed or something? think before you type!:rolleyes:

    take care y'all

    xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nothing wrong with fantasising sugar, but just dont go any further.:)
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