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Is there more to life?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I have a job... I have friends... I'm hoping to teach abroad next year if/when I can afford it... But in all honesty, I'm fed up.

I'm an active person... I work out a lot, I get involved with campaigns I believe in, I have a full time job... It's not like I do nothing all day...

But the past year or so I have felt so unfulfilled and uninspired by life. My job's a bore and getting more stressful to be fair, but not enough that it impacts me... I mean I thrive on pressure, but now I'm just... Meh.

I've been wondering if there's more to life than working, hoping you have a pension at the end and then dying. I'd like to travel, as my friends have... But what happens if travelling is shit?

I am just bored to death and uninspired these days... I used to be a bit earthy and feel inspired by so much... I used to go out a lot and now I hardly see anyone at all because my friends are broke or work stupid hours...

But I'm tired of the nine to five, token socialising with colleagues (tho I like some), gym, meetings... Bleh. Yeah I know that's life... I have a job that pays my bills, for which I should be grateful, but apart from that... I don't enjoy much at all.

If I could, I would pack and leave tomorrow... But I don't know what I'd do because I don't know what I want from life any more (apart from teaching abroad, as I love kids, I'd love to not work in an office and to become bilingual)...

In short... I'm stuck in a rut and wonder if anyone can relate... Or is this called growing up?

I know this sounds like some major self-absorbed shit... But I don't like to feel this way. I want to feel alive again.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know what you mean.

    Definitely go travelling! That is when I am happiest, you meet some cool people, experience different cultures and sometimes I find it can make you appreciate what you have more when you return... i.e. when going to countries where English is not widely understood, coming back to England is the best feeling ever. People suddenly understand you with out hand gestures and acting! But at the same time the experience of being in the foreign country was amazing. If that makes sense? There is no similarities between a 9-5 job and travelling so it is definitely a good change!

    Where would you go?

    edit: and if you don't like it, you can always try another country or put it down to another life experience- at least you tried :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think teaching abroad sounds like a good way to get you out this rut. If you enjoy it then thats great. Even if it is shit it at least gets you out of the rut and may give you some funny stories to tell people.

    I think part of growing up is feeling stuck in a rut and like crap. There is a lot of bordem and lonliness.All my friends seem really miserable now. I think if an oppertunity comes up to get out of the rut then you should take it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    JanePerson wrote: »
    I think teaching abroad sounds like a good way to get you out this rut. If you enjoy it then thats great. Even if it is shit it at least gets you out of the rut and may give you some funny stories to tell people.

    I think part of growing up is feeling stuck in a rut and like crap. There is a lot of bordem and lonliness.All my friends seem really miserable now. I think if an oppertunity comes up to get out of the rut then you should take it.

    :yes:
    Instead of worrying 'what if...' or 'what about money' or something just get out and do it
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Definitely go travelling! That is when I am happiest, you meet some cool people, experience different cultures and sometimes I find it can make you appreciate what you have more when you return... i.e. when going to countries where English is not widely understood, coming back to England is the best feeling ever. People suddenly understand you with out hand gestures and acting! But at the same time the experience of being in the foreign country was amazing. If that makes sense? There is no similarities between a 9-5 job and travelling so it is definitely a good change!

    Where would you go?

    edit: and if you don't like it, you can always try another country or put it down to another life experience- at least you tried :)
    I have never been able to afford to travel. I went to Nepal with friends in 2006 (we fundraised), but before that the last holiday I had I must've been twenty and I went to Cornwall with family (I'm twenty seven now)... I've never traveled beyond that and loved Nepal. It was so interesting and also, challenging.

    I'd go back to Nepal, or India, but to teach English, I'd maybe try South Korea for a year if I could (to save) and a Latin American country, to learn Spanish whilst I teach. I also find the latter continent really interesting.

    How much does travel cost?
    I think part of growing up is feeling stuck in a rut and like crap. There is a lot of bordem and lonliness.All my friends seem really miserable now. I think if an oppertunity comes up to get out of the rut then you should take it.
    Most of my friends are unhappy too... And many of my colleagues... And the people who use the services we give do so because they are desperate... It is such a gloomy environment to work!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    to an extent, travelling costs as much or as little as you want... if you are organised the airlines can give some fantastic deals on seats, which go up in price the closer you get to the departure day.

    as for accommodation and food, you can stay in really cheap places and buy from the supermarket, or you can do five star hotels and eat out! you can even sleep for free if you wish (staying with people on their sofa) although I realise that isn't for everyone!

    same goes with travel once you are there really, coaches are cheaper in some places whilst in others trains are better, that really depends on the country though.

    also the cost depends on the location too, some countries are cheaper to live in than the UK, others similar and a few more are possibly more expensive. Also locations within countries can vary too- tourist locations generally bump up the price, whilst "local" places (cafes, pubs etc) can be significantly cheaper.

    Hope this helps a bit!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Travel is like balsam for the soul! :cool:

    I'd suggest picking up an instrument, I felt the same you did. Then I saw Flea slapp the shit out of a bass and thought, heck I could do that! so I picked up a bass and it litterally changed my life.

    You could also leave your job and get a different one. do something you find funny, like teaching as you suggested. Personally im going to study this fall to become a cameraman (TV). It's the best thing I know, you're never in the same place: one week of shooting a show here, next week outdoors shooting a sport event, etc etc.

    maybe you should take some time and figure out what actually makes you happy and strive for that?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's growing up. Spending most of your tiime doing something you despise to pay the rent/bills/whatever is what most people do.

    If you're working 9-5 doing office work, just look at life like a penitence.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree it s all part of growing up u don't have to be bored sounds like u got plenty to be happy about u should look at the people around you who have not done half of what u have done.
    If u fed up do something about it there is no such word as can't!!
    Look at what life is (its what u make it) and its bloody short so stop moaning and get and live it x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm totally with you, Namaste. I think serious deviancy might be the way forward!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you have no ties to work and to where you're living, I don't see why you shouldn't get up and go off travelling. You're young, you're free and you're single, so get your backpack and get on that plane.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think its really common for people to get feelings of being stuck in a rut in the mid to late 20s - especially if you didn't land your dream job straight out of university (and sometimes even if you did). I second everyone who has said that you should go off and go travelling if you can and want to.

    There is another life to working from 9-5 in a job that your not fulfilled by and your not wrong for wanting it.

    Though it doesn't apply to you I think that this is an age also where lots of people either get married or break up for similar reasons.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you have no ties to work and to where you're living, I don't see why you shouldn't get up and go off travelling. You're young, you're free and you're single, so get your backpack and get on that plane.

    It's gonna take over a year to save for it... But yeah, I'm gonna go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Have you thought of doing something like chalet hosting? I know by brother-in-law's done it for a few years now and he loves it, and it keeps him out of mischief (and in gap year girls) for the winter.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    GO TRAVELLING!!!

    I did when I was 20 and it was amazing and I made some of the best friends ever and it has only made me want to go back and do more!! Do it whilst you are young is my motto!! And forget what the hell other people might say about you, they will just be jealous that you can go and do something so amazing!!! You don't want to hit 40, be married with kids and think - shit I wish I had done this, that, the other....

    MY LIFE MOTTO!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    I've been wondering if there's more to life than working, hoping you have a pension at the end and then dying.

    :yes: This is something I often wonder. I have done so many different things over the years, but I'm still unsure as to what will make me truly happy. I love my friends and who I am, but there's definitely something missing.

    The typical 9-5 boring lifestyle seems pointless...I'm not sure how some people do it for their whole lives. What a waste.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think the 9-5 would be bearable if you had something else that felt meaningful going on in your life alongside the boring work part. I figured you could easily do both at once, e.g. work 9-5 and volunteer for an evening or even just meeting up with friends and bonding over something simple like watching a film and attempting to have profound conversations. However I have found that is not always the case and it can be very difficult combing having a "proper" full time job with volunteering or having local friends.

    Its when you have nothing but the 9-5 job for weeks or months on end before you get to experience something actually worth remembering several years down the line that you really feel stuck in a rut. I honestly don't see how you can live like that for years on end without ending up suicidal.
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