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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
New here, but just wanted to know how long you should wait before having sex in a relationship. I know its up to the person but what do you guys think is acceptable?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ummm... Well, I know one person who waited a month, one person who waited three months, one person who waited a week, and I waited 8 months. All were virgins to start with and all are still together today, after being together at least a year.

    It depends on the relationship. When the time is right, it'll happen.

    You want it to be something memorable, right?!

    Kate xxx <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i waited 11 months, I was way ready by about 8 but luck was not on my side...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I once waited a couple of months, and another time I only waited a couple of hours, and in neither case would I say that the wait time had anything to do with how the relationship fared.

    The things that do count are whether you really love the person or just fancy them (want sex with them); whether you respect them; whether you respect yourself; how commited you are to the relationship.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i would say that if you're a virgin you should wait a good few months before havng sex with that person. Purely because it gives you the time to understand and know that person and their intentions so you're more comfortable in the relatinship.
    You'll feel better about it when the time comes and are much more likely not to regret it later. Personally i waited 4 months which seemed quite long at the time but it was better than rushing into things.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i waited three months at the time it seemed it felt right but now i wished i had waited bit longer not to long though <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    it just depends on the relationship. now that i have lots my virginity i probably wouldnt wait any longer than the three months i waited for the first time.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I went out last night, met a young woman, and she waited about three hours before I waded through her! It wasn't either of our first times. I'm going out with her tonight for a proper evening, it did suprise me how easy it came though... a bit too easy really. But, I'm not really conplaining.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I lost slept with my first gf on our second date and lost my virginity about a week or two later. Don't regret it, but can completely understand how you could.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    And then there is the thing about what exactly you class as sex. Technically I've been sleeping with my boyfriend from the beginning: The night I first met my boyfriend (at my uni's Labour Club AGM and social <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">) he ended up going home with me. We were fairly restrained on that occasion, and underwear remained on, but by 2 weeks later things had moved on a pace. However, in terms of 'proper' sex, we waited 8 months. I don't regret any of it at all, and I don't think I'd do anything differently, but I sometimes feel that the almost-one-night-stand nature of how we first met was highly dodgy, and maybe not how I'd imagined things to happen. And then I look back on it and snigger.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's up to the couple and how you feel...I don't think the first night is a good idea as he/she may think you do it with everyone!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There is no specfic time to wait. the special time will come when you are both ready but dont rush into it as it may ruin your relationship.
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