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How to be less slagy
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... but still look good.
Having spent hours speaking to the ex boyfriend, who I want back rather badly, I've promised him I'm going to change if he takes me back. It's not just him I want to change for though, I want to feel better about myself... but the thing is, I only feel good when I'm wearing a ton of make up and a low cut top and a tiny skirt. I need to get those looks and comments from men, they keep my confidence up.
But when I'm wearing less makeup, and more "suitible" clothes, I don't get that attention from guys, and I feel crap
I spend hours and hours in front of the mirror, it takes me an hour and a half at least to get ready for school. I'll get to school and put more makeup on, then more during my lessons, and at breaks... I guess I'm a bit addicted? I just want to know if there's anyway I'll still be able to feel good, but look less like a sket and more like.. a nice girl? x
Having spent hours speaking to the ex boyfriend, who I want back rather badly, I've promised him I'm going to change if he takes me back. It's not just him I want to change for though, I want to feel better about myself... but the thing is, I only feel good when I'm wearing a ton of make up and a low cut top and a tiny skirt. I need to get those looks and comments from men, they keep my confidence up.
But when I'm wearing less makeup, and more "suitible" clothes, I don't get that attention from guys, and I feel crap
I spend hours and hours in front of the mirror, it takes me an hour and a half at least to get ready for school. I'll get to school and put more makeup on, then more during my lessons, and at breaks... I guess I'm a bit addicted? I just want to know if there's anyway I'll still be able to feel good, but look less like a sket and more like.. a nice girl? x
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The boys that give you attention aren't looking at you, they're looking at your boobs and your arse and to them you aren't a person, you are a thing. You can get just as much, and better, attention by wearing some well-fitting jeans and t-shirts and some simple, clean, natural makeup.
It's legs OR cleavage.
Less is more, darling, less is more. Both flesh and make up.
What you need to wear are clothes that fit. If you're curvy avoid those horrific baggy t-shirt dress things and don't treat leggings as the same as trousers. You might want to look at empire-line dresses if you have big bongos and a bit of a tummy, they show off plenty of lovely cleavage without making you look like a floozy.
As for the attention, you don't want attention from the sort of boys who only holler comments at girls with their arse hanging out. You want attention from more normal men, the ones who'll be a bit more subtle about eyeing you up as you walk past. And trust me, more men will eye you up if you're not done up like a dog's breakfast.
Also, I've said it before and I'll say it again...you don't need to base your happiness on men, be it boyfriend or random douche bags in the street. Just be natural and you and you'll be appreciated for who you really are.
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Even if you dont get any looks or comments it doesnt mean you are worthless.
Just because you don't dress like a "slag" doesn't mean that you aren't beautiful, you are
As for clothes, it's not so bad for school because I wear skinny jeans. But at weekends that means I then have no trousers to wear... so I'm stuck with shorts or skirts. And all my tops are low cut as other tops just don't suit me at all
They get washed, i only have one pair and I wear them all week to school
you don't have school uniform?
Yeaa we have school jumpers, but all the girls either wear miss sexy or skinny jeans. But it's nearly summer so I'm guessing everyone will start wearing high wasted skirts again, and I have plenty of those
Can you not ask your dad for some money for clothes? Or even if your mum won't give you money, ask her to go shopping with you for another pair of jeans or two?
(btw, I read high waisted skirts as 'getting high and wasted', and got really confused as to what that had to do with how you dress and stuff!)
See, she wont buy me any more because I have a pair of school trousers. But they are icky, and I'd get bullied for wearing them (and don't say I wouldn't, because believe me I would.)... It's my birthday in april though, so I'll get money then and will get more jeans. Oh, and Dad wont buy me things as he "already gives my mum enough money towards me" :yeees:
I'll ask, but my mum only does a wash once a week, on a sunday.
Ahh well, I guess I'll just wear dirty jeans :L Better than nothing
It shouldn't take you long to get a tenner and buy your own. Can you get money for chores? Or get a paper round?
Naa, cos mum pays for my phone bill. I'll ask my uncle, he's like my personal bank
Wow and I thought school was superficial when I was there a few years ago. We weren't allowed to wear jeans, we had to wear trousers.
They try to make us wear trousers... but because there are so many of us, I think they've just given up now. For a few weeks last year they'd send you home to get changed, but no body ever went back afterwards :L