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Porn - is it acceptable in a relationship?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey there guys been away for a long time!

This questions most likely been asked but...

Is it acceptable for a a guy or girl to watch porn when in a serious relationship? where you have regular sex?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, as long as its not all the time, and not in preference to actual sex with your partner
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, as long as its not all the time, and not in preference to actual sex with your partner

    but would you, if you had any confidence issues - be it emotionally, physically or the ability to perform. Feel upset if you knew about it?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Theres all sorts of factors there.
    Ive had a relationship before where i felt VERY threatened by his use of porn because it was always in preference to sex with me, and i wasnt being made to feel desired or wanted in anyway, so i blamed the porn rather than the guy.
    Im in a relationship now, where he sometimes uses porn and it doesnt bother me in the slightest because i feel wanted, so it doesnt threaten me
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It depends on the people in the relationship. Some would feel threatened if their partner even thought about looking about porn.

    Im the same as suzy, as long as it wasnt all the time and didnt affect our relationship and i was still made to feel attractive and wanted then it wouldnt matter. Ive watched porn whilst i was in a relationship before, but it didnt mean i was using it as a replacement for him
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As long as it isnt to much, it can be a fun game watching some porn and seeing who cracks and jumps on their partner first.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    G-Raffe wrote: »
    As long as it isnt to much, it can be a fun game watching some porn and seeing who cracks and jumps on their partner first.

    :yes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah i think its fine, its normal for guys to watch porn anyways so i wouldn't be offended if my boyfriend said he did, to watch it together is sexy though so i'd probably suggest that lol :P i've seen it before, alot is fake though apparently which i don't like!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    For me it has never been an issue that my partners have watched porn. Hell I watch porn too. As said above it can be really good if you watch it together too. I think watching porn is just human nature personally. Same as sex.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think its fine unless obviously they were watching a porn video of their ex or somone they knew obviously but if its some random girl/boy i think its fine as theres a difference between watching someone and actually going off and having sex with them
    for example guys normally still wank even in a long term relatinship (not saying all do) but they must be imaging something to wank over if you know what i mean? & watching porn is better than your bf/gf going and cheating on you lol
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah of course it's fine!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but would you, if you had any confidence issues - be it emotionally, physically or the ability to perform. Feel upset if you knew about it?

    I think it comes down to how porn is being used.

    If your partner's using porn instead of wanting to have sex with you then there's something wrong. But that's nothing to do with the porn and everything to do with your partner. It's the same problem if they're not using porn but using vibrators or whatever instead of having sex with you.

    If they're using porn when you don't want sex, or when it isn't possible for you to have sex, then there isn't a problem IMHO. Yes, men will generally only look at porn with people in it that they find attractive, but it's honestly no different to seeing a pretty celebrity or a cute girl in the street. No man's going to watch ugly people have sex (and everyone's idea of ugly is different) but that doesn't mean they think the porn models are better than you. The porn models are 2D, they're with you and jumping your bones because they want you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MoK wrote: »
    :yes:
    Agreed!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Pornography isn't acceptable in any relationship, in my view.

    Considering how degrading it is to the people involved in its production. It is also enormously addictive / life-destroying to the viewer.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    user912 wrote: »
    Pornography isn't acceptable in any relationship, in my view.

    Considering how degrading it is to the people involved in its production. It is also enormously addictive / life-destroying to the viewer.

    :rolleyes: really?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    user912 wrote: »
    Pornography isn't acceptable in any relationship, in my view.

    Considering how degrading it is to the people involved in its production. It is also enormously addictive / life-destroying to the viewer.

    LOL

    As for degrading the people involved in its production - I agree this is true of the porn industry - but does this apply to amateur porn too?

    Porn is not addictive, sexual urges are natural and require satisfaction - the problem arises when that satisfaction can only, or predominantly, be achieved by watching porn. Big difference.
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