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I don't know you or your family, I'm just wondering. It's good that you're getting psychiatric help, if only because it will stop you from feeling initial rejection so keenly which will then minimise the risk of behaving in a way that will make people ostracise you
Because your family don't have a choice perhaps.
Seriously, you treat people like shit and wonder why they won't talk to you?
You need to really think about your behaviour at work, just because your family have to live with it, you really should get over this idea that your co-workers have to.
My family treat ppl nice. They act normal. Both of which have not applied to me so far. That's y I asked lol
And at school, b4 I met Jessica, I behaved myself. Those who saw me b4 and after I met Jessica commented on how totally different I became (i.e. worse.)
And at my very first job (Goody's) I never met a person who didn't like me, so I behaved the whole year I was there. My supervisor gave me good reference for my next job and I got awarded for customer service for April 2008. Unfortunately, it closed
Finally, I was just so angry. I purposely embarrassed the store by shouting, "If Kyra won't play with me, I want my mommy!" A manager's 9 y/o son asked his mother if she was sure I worked there. Did I succeed in embarrassing the store?
The next day, the store manager told me she can't have me behaving like that. If she didn't know the 2 of us, she's think I'm in love with Kyra.
Me: I'm not a dyke!
Another coworker: She didn't mean you.
Me: Do not call my friend Kyra a dyke!
Everyone was looking at us. I was wondering if I were in the wrong on that one. And I'm looking for good answers thanks.
I think you need some anger management classes or something.
I only wanna know if dyke is a bad word. As for what I described above, yes I know what I did was very wrong.
Yes, at work it is wrong to use the word 'dyke' like that. To say, defensively, "I am not a dyke!" implies that you have issues with gay people, as well, which could be taken amiss by a coworker who is gay.
Well, my boss seemed to be calling me a dyke lol.
She didn't use the word dyke (and if you don't understand that it's offensive you should really avoid using it as well).
Sigh.
As the others have said it's never a good idea to use words that will or could cause other people offense especially at work. As far as I understand you work in customer services too, so it is recommended not to swear or offend people as this will not give a good reputation to the place that you work. 'Dyke' is commonly considered to be a derogatory word, so as Piccolo and JavaKrypt have said it's probably best not to use that word again.
It sounds like you have had quite a lot of problems at work recently and have mentioned Kyra quite a few times. If you cannot work out your differences with Kyra or put them to one side whilst you are working then it is understandable that your manager will want to speak to your about your behaviour. You also mentioned that you intentionally tried to embarrass the store, which your manager will definitely not like.
I guess you do not want to lose your job, so perhaps it's worth speaking to Kyra about how you two can work together or speak to your manager about this and see whether she could help e.g. put you on different shifts? You said you have tried to pay Kyra to be your friend. We can't force people to like us, sometimes we have to accept we don't get on with certain people and spend more time with the people we do like. Paying someone for friendship isn't really advisable as you will end up out of pocket and with someone who may only like you for your money.
We are not sure what you mean by 'Is she or is she not' but it's likely we can't answer as we don't know the situation or the people in it, but please do be more specific if you can and we can try to help.
Hope things start to look up for you at work,
LauraO
Calling me a lesbian?
Ahhh sorry I got the wrong end of the stick and thought you were working there again.
Maybe it's best not to dwell on the past then and look to the future instead? We don't know exactly what she meant by what she said, but if you didn't bring it up at the time perhaps it's best now to forget about it and move forward, what do you think?
How's the search going for a new job?
LauraO
Interview today at Target. I hope I get it.
Good luck :thumb: hope it goes well, let us know how you get along!
Amen to that
Poison comes from words at the top and spread in a department like cancer- any workplace
She seems to be a darling doesn't she