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confidentiality?!
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i am in year twelve and like I have mentioned before I have been wanting to speak to my head of year but wondering what rules he will have to follow about confidentiality. I dont want to tell him everything if he going to go tell someone else everything as soon as I have left. Should I just ask him when I next speak to him. I spoke to him today but I had to hold back because I was unsure and found it hard to pick the right words.
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Today i had to talk to the child protection officer... which wasn't too bad, although scarey as she knows me well from having done my work experience with her.
Maybe next time you talk to him, just say, "look theres something i want to talk to you about, but im worried about confidentiality" He will know best what he has to do, and should be straight with you
Good luck *hug*
As the poster above says, you could ask him what constitutes confidentiality in his mind.
i think this is a good idea.
anyone who has a duty of care over you (whether you are a child or an adult) should treat everything you tell them with confidence, unless they think that you are in danger or that you are a danger to others.
where does self harm fall into the situation? causing danger to myself but want it to be kept quiet.
should be okay, and just ask them if your worried :)Xx
if one of the students i work with told me they were self-harming i would HAVE to tell someone, or i would be guilty of neglect.
Generally though, they can only break confidence when necessarily, and as little as possible, to protect your health and well being, and pretty much not without telling you first, so you can easily find out what the score is before telling all.
If your teacher acts professionally he should explain this before you disclose anything to him, and he should always seek to get your permission for disclosure before disclosing it. This would then give you the choice of disclosing or not.
With self-injury the line is not clear as to what counts as being a danger to yourself. FWIW if someone did disclose that they were injuring themsleves I would discuss it with my line manager and decide whether to make a welfare disclosure to the University, but I would generally persuade the student to go to the Counselling Service to keep it voluntary. It isn't even that I would want to disclose, it is just that I have a legal duty to disclose information that shows children and vulnerable adults are in danger of being harmed. If someone disclosed self-injury and then became critically injured, and I hadn't disclosed, then there would be serious questions asked of me professionally.
This is taken from our article on confidentiality:
Different schools will have different systems in place but before you open up it's more than ok to ask about their policy and let him know your concerns. It's great that you have someone you feel you can confide in, Scary's suggestion about going to the doctor too might be something to consider? Take care *hug*