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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

Hello people,
I'm in need of some help , plz :)
I really dont know what to do,
Its the new year and i wanted to do many changes ie stop over exersising
I planned it all 3 weeks maybe more christmas finally wanted to change untill i was sexually and phiscally assulted by my boyfriend, now i just want my control back and over exercise.. am i an idiot for doing this?
I'm guna be letting a lot of people down as told them my goal :(

I feel physically sick and i dont know what to do,
I'm restricting more as NEED the control and that im just so fat!!!!
My heads all over the place and i dont know what to do !!!!

plz help me as another goal is to stop self harming and im
so scared ill go back to it !!
thanks for listening and sorry for going on,

HaPpY NeW YeAr EvErYoNe !!! xxx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Heyy depressedgal

    don't make too many goals as this will just make it harder for u to achieve and will make u feel bad if u dont achieve all of them. Try and keep it to three rules, for example mine are:

    1. To be self harm free
    2. To open up more to people about how i feel
    3. To tell the truth and give things a go (such as my counselling)

    I'm sure people will understand if u dont do all your goals, expecially after all you've been through. I'm sure if you ecplain to them that they will support you whatever your decision.

    I too and scared that i will go back to self harming. I last self harmed yesterday and within minutes of the new year i felt one of my worse urges and have been having them on and off all day.
    But we can do this xx

    I'll be here to support you whatever you do and if u ever need to talk i will listen *hug*
    take care
    ghostlife xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :wave: Ghost life hiiiii its you :)
    Feel like I can relate to you as we both self harm and trying to stop :)
    I havent cut in a while :)
    feeling positive maybe its helping to talk as normally i push ppl away,

    your goals r great hunie hope u achieve them :)
    tried not doing as much exercise today but i felt like i hardly
    done anything so did more oops!!
    i suck but i aint guna punish myself!!

    hows things with you hunie ??
    I'm here to talk to you if u want

    xxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *hug* Yes it's me depressedgal :d
    Well done for not cutting in a while this is great! I'm on day 2 of not cutting so far :/ things got a bit much a few hours before the new year. And yeah keep talking, it's positive and will make u feel better :)

    Thanks and at least u tried! You're now one step closer to success :)
    and good, dont punish urself if u go wrong, that's the only thing i'm a bit worried about to be honest cause i know if i do slip up and end up cutting then i will give myself such a hard time. And u do not suck! It takes so much courage to try and change things, you should be proud of yourself!

    Had a couple of problems at home and i really dont wanna go back to school on Tuesday but other than that i'm okay thanks :)
    How's everything going for u?

    Together we can do this *hug*
    Speak to you soon xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    awww bless u hunie it is extremely hard but ur doing so well keep up the good work chick!!

    awww ur bk at skool 2mozz didnt realise how young u r how old ru if u dnt mind me asking? u thought about talking to a teacher?
    Does any1 know u self harm?

    thanks for being there 4 me i feel positive for
    a change i ent giving up just yet ;)

    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thank you :) and i'm 14
    some of my teachers know, the school child protection officer found out about my self harming :/ i've only ever spoken to my tutor about it and that was because i'd attempted suicide, self harming 35+ times a week and was feeling suicidal again. So the school found out about it for the second time but it's kind of a talk about it once and try to stop but then i slip back into my old patterns and dont tell anyone. A few of my close friends know aswell and i occasionally talk to them about it.

    I'm happy to help, it feels good :)
    Don't stop believing *hug*
    ghostlife xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wow your so young i was thinking how about ringing childline there confidential 0800 1111
    they have a address you can write to aswell which is on my website
    also i have other helpline if u like to look check out my website
    http://beateatingdisorders.webs.com/

    im also here 4 u :) xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Haha lol, when i think about u self harming since you were 7 then i dont feel young! I've been doing it since i was 13, but 7, mine doesnt seems a young age to start then.
    You're website is amazing! It's so inspiring and u are so beautiful!
    And i do talk to childline, havent got the guts to call them though so i email and have a 121 chat, i also go on a website called cybermentors, and all of these together are helping a little. I might give some on your site a go aswell thank you :)

    you are so amazing, strong and brave! *hug*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Awww thank you hunie thats really sweet made my day hehe thanks
    wish i believed it tho im fat nd ugly but thnks

    good ur going for a walk hope that helped
    it helps me when feeling low,
    sorry im not staying on here tonight in a lot of pain but ill be bk on 2moz

    xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Trust me, you are BEAUTIFUL :d

    Exercise does sometimes help me feel better, it doesnt always though.
    Is everything alright?
    Speak to you soon babe *hug*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hello DepressedGal and GhostLife,

    Sorry to hear you are both having a really hard time right now, TheSite.org offers alot of infomation on Self Harming and ways to cope there a A-Z list you both may want to check out.I am glad you are planning your goals, haveyou succeded in any of them yet? GhostLife is right you shouldn't set to many goals for yourself DepressedGal, I do hope you are both doing better *hug* *hug*

    P.S Your site is amazing, very inspirational, but I don't enjoy the music on the home page, my mood drops slightly. Both take care *hug*
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Awwww im soooooooo sowi to hear ur mum died total eclipse!! hugs!!!
    thanks hunie im trying to change songs but not letting me guuna re try now thanx xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sooooo annoying wont let me change song coz not enough stoarage space,
    shud i delete the site coz dno how to delete music xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    depressedgal: dont get rid of the site, it's really inspiring, maybe you could put that music may trigger so turn off sound if needed? or something like that?

    **Total-Eclipse**: first of all, here if u ever need to talk xx So far i've managed to not s/h, but the urges have been getting really bad so i dont think i'll be able to keep it up for long :( and i have opened up a bit more by giving my poems about how i feel to my deputy head of year but then i shut down again, making them all believe i was fine...

    how r u both? stay strong *hug* xx
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