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Stopping contact
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I didn't know if I should put this in here or in law...
But basically, I want to stop all contact with my dad and I have done for a while. My mum, however, says I have to see him as she needs a break from me etc etc. When I was little I used to spend every holiday with him, now I see him at Summer Christmas and my birthday for about 3 days. So, a maximum of 2 weeks with him a year I'd day.
I hate him. I utterly hate him. Do I have to keep seeing him till I'm 18, or can I legally make the decision to stop seeing him even if my mum wants me to see him?
Thanks guys x
But basically, I want to stop all contact with my dad and I have done for a while. My mum, however, says I have to see him as she needs a break from me etc etc. When I was little I used to spend every holiday with him, now I see him at Summer Christmas and my birthday for about 3 days. So, a maximum of 2 weeks with him a year I'd day.
I hate him. I utterly hate him. Do I have to keep seeing him till I'm 18, or can I legally make the decision to stop seeing him even if my mum wants me to see him?
Thanks guys x
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He's just a total wanker to be honest, every time I speak to him I end up in tears. He makes me feel like utter shit.
How old are you?
I think parents have a right to have access to their children until they are 16 unless there is a very very good reason why not (they are abusive, a drunk/drug addict etc). Basically you could tell him you didn't want to see him and it would be up to him t fight it or not....
There are actually personal reason as to why she wants a break, in that her boyfriend lives in London so she wants to go and stay with him. Me and my mum get on well now, she isn't "desperate" for a break. But she wants to go out sometimes, I dont think anyone would want to be with their child 24/7
^^ This. I'm not in anyway saying you're wrong or it's your fault BA but if he wants to see you he must have some thoughts of care about you, you are his daughter after all. Step mums can be a trial, i know from bitter personal experience.
How about sitting down one night and writing out everything thats wrong, make a list, and see what issues can be resolved. Be honest. List the things you do wrong as well as his, then have a chat to him about it all or, better still, write it all out in a letter.
Last time I went to stay with him, we got in an argument about a poster... it ended with him going and punching all the windows in the shed, and cutting up his hands and then kicking me out. We just don't get on at all.
This man is counciler ffs! He works with children every single day, most of whom are drug addicts and in care... It's ridiculous. If he acted like this at work he'd be fired.
my parents split up about a year and a half ago and my dad moved away. he now lives in a hostel about 25 miles away from us.
for the first year when didnt see him and had very little contact with him because we did not want too. my brothers are 9, 13 & 15. i'm 19.
we now see him once a month for a couple of hours on a saturday.. was supposed to be once every 2weeks but he claims he "cannot" afford to anymore.
we are always given the choice if we want to see him or not.
my 13 year old brother did not go the last time as he didn't want to.
i guess wat im tryin to say is - it is your choice if you want to see him or not. mayb u could stay with your grandparents so that ur mum can stil have her break with her boyfriend.
talk to your mum and see wat she thinks,
good luck and best wishes to you hun.
xx