Home Sex & Relationships
If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
Options

Threesome

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My gf of two years and I have recently been talking about having a threesome. The deal is once with me and another guy and once with her a girl. I think that we are both mature and in love enough to do this. It is kind of untested grounds for the both of us what do you think should I or shouldn't I?

Comments

  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmmm ... it takes a certain type of person to have a threesome with the one they love and to walk away unaffected. Often jealousy arises when too much attention is paid to one partner and not the other - apart from the 3rd person maybe being better than you in bed and/or "bigger" than you etc etc

    Give it a lot of thought first. If you will BOTH be completely unaffected, then it's just fun and no harm will happen. But that's only "if". Are you both bi-sexual or are you not going down that route of experimentation?
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Article here: http://www.thesite.org/magazine/sex_and_relationships/threesomes.html

    Also a topic that has been covered before, so I suggest that you try doing a search of the message boards too for more information.
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You have a mind? <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Since their never seems to be much in the way of comments from the 3rd person, I thought I'd put my oar in.

    i had a 3some with a bloke and his g/f. he was bi as am I. I thought it was great and would tell anyone to do it. But (always one!!) only if your completely secure with each other. the guy in this case seemed to get fed up half way through and lose interest, although it could have been 'cos he was e'd up. he did get in to again, but it did make me feel very uncomfortable.

    Just be away of the possible long problems.
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just to answer the question no there will be no bi-sexual relations on my part but my gf will have oral sex with another girl.
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you two are truely in love, don't do it. Sex is a special part of love. It binds you two, do you really want another person having a part of her. You may think it's only sex, but it forms a bond. And the others are right, unless you don't care for her, jealousy will emerge in the end... either for you or for her...
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I totally agree with Onamuji...

    Me and my bf talk about it jokingly sometimes but I know deep down we never would end up doing that. He doesn't truly like the thought of it and I couldn't bear to share him with anyone else. It's bad enough spending time fully clothed with other people but I just want him all to myself!

    If that's the kind of person you are, and the kind of thing you want to do, then go for it. But make sure you are 100% sure about it because everything we do is a memory to be made - do you really want to carry that around with you if it fcks everything up?

    Kate
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Threesome will ruin everything! it cant make things better! only worse! have a 3some with people you dont know!
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Susie:
    <STRONG> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    I believe the word you were looking for was "touche", but you need an accent.

    On another note, well done to Reg for fixing the problem with quoting smilies.
  • Options
    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just so you know ,after careful consideration, My gf and I have decided going through with a threesome would be a bad idea. While it may be exciting and fun to think about, the after effects are not worth it. We both are very much in love and there is no reason to jeapordize our relationship for a night of sex. Thanks for the advice everyone
Sign In or Register to comment.