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How do you make friends after leaving education?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah but it wont help me with making new friends. Plus talking randomly to someone who is staring back with wide-eyed horror is not exactly my idea of fun.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you think about it ost of our friends are going to be people we meet at school/college/uni or work as these are the places that we are spending so much time with other people.
    Working as a temp it is going to be hard for you to build friendships, have you thought about a part time job maybe just a few hours a week in a pub maybe?
    Don't rule out voluntering though its a great way to to meet active and motivated people and you can probably find a volunter centre near you that would easily find you something suited to your age.
    Being lonely is awful i know so good luck x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Louisek wrote: »
    If you think about it ost of our friends are going to be people we meet at school/college/uni or work as these are the places that we are spending so much time with other people.
    Working as a temp it is going to be hard for you to build friendships, have you thought about a part time job maybe just a few hours a week in a pub maybe?
    Don't rule out voluntering though its a great way to to meet active and motivated people and you can probably find a volunter centre near you that would easily find you something suited to your age.
    Being lonely is awful i know so good luck x

    I kind of covered that earlier.
    JanePerson wrote: »
    The problem is that the places I want to volunteer at (the ones with other people my age) are in places where there isn't really any suitable public transport anyway. I would not mind spending a bit of money on bus fairs if it would help me to get out more but there are only 2 good bus routes in my town and neither cover those areas. It would be a 2 hour walk each way.

    I also tried looking for casual work like at a bar or cafe but its in short supply, maybe for recession reasons. Plus they always insist on a years bar/cafe experience which I don't have. I feel like I have tried everything to make friends in this miserable town but nothing works.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    JanePerson wrote: »
    I kind of covered that earlier.

    Sorry was just trying to be supportive
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nah thats ok. I was pretty surprised by how little is on offer in my area too. I just assumed I would find a suitable group to join or place to volunteer at. I wasn't expecting to continue my university lifestyle but neither was I expecting to be left with nothing to do.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just meet people either at work, or start a new course, or online. Ive met quite a few friends through having my children too.
    i dont think theres any specific way. Its not like you havent still got your old friends though is it?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Most of the courses at my local college are during the day so I cant do them while I'm working. Plus it seems a bet desperate spending hundreds of pounds on a qualification I'm unlikely to use just to try and make friends. Evening classes where I live are limited and very poorly attended (try 1 or 2 other people showing up or no one showing up or being the only person under 40) so no luck there either.

    Work is no good as I temp, plus most people commute. I got friendly with this one girl once but she lives 2 hours away in the other direction. I cant afford a car and even if I could, visiting her would be more than a 5 hour round trip.

    I have my old friends but we now live too far apart for a regular social life. I've looked at some online social sites but did not find any people in my local area. The last thing I need right now are another load of distance friends.

    It probably sounds like I am making excuses but I really feel like I have tried everything possible to get a social life together. I feel like my only option now is to try and move to a place where there are better people about.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    have you considered moving closer to some of your old friends?
    A lot of people stay in the area they went to uni for this reason i think.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I really wanted to stay in my uni town but I had to be practical. Its a terrible place for finding work, even before the recession hit. I'd have had little chance of getting a job and no chance of a job that related to my degree.

    I'm planning on saving up so I can move if I figure out the best place for me to move to. I'm thinking either near friends I already have or a busy city with loads of people about.
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