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Taken In Hand?
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Someone used this term the other day and I thought it was a D/s term. I googled it and it is not; although the two seem very similar. Can anyone express the differenc{sw} between the two? Thanks!:wave:
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Say what????
Not something I have personal experience of, I hasten to add LOL! But it takes all sorts, as they say!!!
Although a taken in hand relationship has a strong sexual element, it goes a lot deeper than that, so shouldn't be confused with d/s sex games. To the OP, if a woman has suggested this type of relationship to you, you need to be very clear about the distinction. Men who can handle that level of control in a loving and supportive way, without abusing or bullying their partners, are rare beasts, but they do exist.
TY for your excellent response overthehill. To be clear a friend stated that someone I know needs to be "taken in hand", but this will never happen for many reasons. BTW does this sort of relationship only exist for married couples? Seems so?:)
I'm no expert, but I wouldn't have said so. However, there has to be an element of permanence and commitment from both partners for the relationship to work. It could work equally well with long-term partners who, for whatever reason, decide not to marry but, I think if you tried it with someone with whom you couldn't see a long term future, it would be little more than a bedroom thing.