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whats wrong with me?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi
recently i have just been feeling so low about everything. I just cant seem to see the positive in things anymore and i just have no motivation with anyone or anything
I dont really want to socialise with my friends or family who i dont live with and i rather just stay at home and live my life on my own with no interference.
I dont know what has caused it or why, but i just dont know what to do anymore
I have coucliing already for my eating disorder, but that part of my life seems okayy at the moment. I know you may say i should make an effort with my friends but when im out with them i just dont feel in the mood and me being there will probably just make things arkward and just boring.
I have a job and go to school still but my life just seems to boring and plain and everyday is the same
:( someone please cheer me up
x

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You sound depressed.

    I'm not a doctor, but what you cite sounds like symptoms of depression.

    Is there anybody you can talk with about this? A friend, or your parents, or a sibling?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    I have coucliing already for my eating disorder, but that part of my life seems okayy at the moment.

    Has anything come up in your councelling to make you feel low in mood?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i havent been to my counilor for a while because shes been on leave and we have ben extended the left between visits etc, so i wouldnt put it down to that really. Though i do tend to dwell on thoughts and feelings and situations probably too much :|
    It has just come on so quickly, life was perfect eailier this year, i had a boyfriend went back to my old school, so had all my friends back again but it just seems to have gone down hill :|
    I suppose i could tell parents or friends but i just dont have any motivation to meet up with my friends which i know sounds horrible and therefore that is my fault for not making the effort
    :( i just want things to go back to how they used to me
    Does anyone have any mind boosting tips and ways to cheer yourself up and be more postive?
    xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I suffer from a lot of the same feelings on a daily basis. I feel unfulfilled in life, I feel something is missing, I struggle to find happiness in things, I chase shadows and then find that they still don't satisfy me when I catch up with them. It's a very frustrating place to be, to be unhappy but with no real idea of what can make you happy. I also can't summon the energy to see friends, I don't feel better when I'm with them, so often I'm just shut away too. Sometimes I might attach hope to a particular thing or person, but if I get them then the shine immediately goes away.

    I think that putting some constructive challenges in your life can help. You have school and your job but do they give you any real sense of achievement? Perhaps there is a hobby you could look at, something that you've thought about before but never got around to doing? Or pehaps exercise, which can be very hard to take up initially but can really provide its own motivation once the benefits start to come.

    The more you shut away, and the less you do, the less you want to do. It really does become a vicious circle and the longer you stay like that the harder it is to break out of it.

    Also, your places of sanctuary can hold you in negative feelings sometimes. If you've spent a large amount of time feeling ill, or depressed, in a particular place then it almost takes on a negative association in your mind. Just getting out of the house sometimes can be a massive help. Or taking a weekend break, to be somewhere completely different. Getting out when the sun is out, enjoying the warmth on your face, or a gentle summer breeze. Going to see some nature spot that is truly magnificent, etc.

    I think that we can all fall out of life sometimes for various reasons. Sometimes you really need to force yourself back on the horse and endure some 'brave face' time before you start to see the benefits again. I know as well as ANYONE how hard it is to summon that initial motivation when you are sunk in depression, but perhaps we need to accept that it is going to be against our own will in the beginning, to get up and push ourselves, but we need to look a little further down the road to the benefits that may come.

    I'm just throwing out ideas here, if I had the ideal answer I would have implemented it myself. None of this is easy, but at least you know that you're not alone.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i havent been to my counilor for a while because shes been on leave and we have ben extended the left between visits etc, so i wouldnt put it down to that really. Though i do tend to dwell on thoughts and feelings and situations probably too much :|
    It has just come on so quickly, life was perfect eailier this year, i had a boyfriend went back to my old school, so had all my friends back again but it just seems to have gone down hill :|
    I suppose i could tell parents or friends but i just dont have any motivation to meet up with my friends which i know sounds horrible and therefore that is my fault for not making the effort
    :( i just want things to go back to how they used to me
    Does anyone have any mind boosting tips and ways to cheer yourself up and be more postive?
    xx

    Listen to music.

    Laugh at comedies.

    Practice the Law of Attraction

    Surround yourself with positive people

    Don't take life too seriously

    Make jokes and smile
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Super147

    I can totally relate to you and how your feel. There hasnt been any draumatic events or upsets around the moment and last week i was feeling alot better than i am now ( i say alot better but i was just feeling okayy)

    I just want to cry all the time, but i dont know what i want that will make me happier, as there isnt just the one thing :(

    Ahh i just dont know whats wrong with me! Why cant i just be like normal people and just feel normal :(
    xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi,

    I felt like this and sometimes still do, the thing is I went and talked to my doctor but all he said was that I was suffering from Anxiety !!!!

    erm, erm.....

    Don't know what else to say really other than I still suffer from the problems you have listed above.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I sympathize with you, I've had feelings like that before and I tend to fall in and out of feeling them even now.

    All I can say is that you have to try and break out of this cycle somehow, even just with small things to cheer you up. It doesn't have to be anything with friends, just watching a nice movie, or putting on some positive music... the thing that I find always helps me is going for a walk, clears my head if i'm down and makes me feel much better.

    I can't really offer much more advice than that, I hope you feel better soon. :)
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