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Should i be doing this??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hello everyone just joined the site but i think its great :-)

Not sure how to go about explaining this cause i have only told one person. I'm 18, I have been friends with this girl for about six months, we met each other through work (part time) and we get on really well (but not to the outside world). About six weeks ago we became 'SPECIAL FRIENDS' which we have defined as two FRIENDS who secreatly get together to relieve ones 'sexual frustrations' (if you know what i mean). We do not classify this as a relationship because we only use each other for sex to put it bluntly. We meet up when one of us need it (sex), none of our close friends who we socialise with have any idea but we have nearly been caught in many occasions. Amoung our friends we act very cold towards each other as if we hate the sight of each other and talk about each other behind each others back (this is part of the act). Then when we sneak off its such a rush, you wouldn't believe the thrill of constanly making out with the chance of getting caught especialy under the circumstances. Every time we meet we live more dangerously we have been at it in a room surrounded by friends, in the back seat of a seven seater (not doing it but lets just say a good attempt) also surrounded by friends, in our parents houses (bedroom & living room), at work in the toilets or in a store and even in the managers office.

We openly discuss the fact that we don't like each other as a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship and just want to keep this whole thing going becuase its not just the sex its the thrill. Just because we are 'special friends' it doesn't mean we don't get it off with other people when we are out clubbing.

The question i have to ask all you cool people is: Is this right? Are there any other people in my position out there or am i the only sicko? Am i decieving people when i go out and make out with them? Is this moralily (can't spell) correct?

PLEASE PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR OPINIONS CAUSE I FEEL TERRIBLE BUT ALL I CaN SAY IS I LOVE IT!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it sounds like fun, and if you are not hurting anyone then why not? When you are old and settled down you will not be able to do this kind of thing!

    Just be wary of getting attatched as someone may end up getting hurt..you may think you can seperate your emotions from sex..but it's easier said than done..especially if this is going on over a period of time.

    Hope this helped!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think as a general rule, if you have to ask if you should be doing something or not, it usually means you shouldn't...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    that sounds mint mate!

    enuf said
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well since your obviously having fun keep doing it. I can't see that there's anything wrong with it.

    You seem to be able to talk to each other and you need to keep doing that. You need to be sure that if 1 of you starts getting any feelings for the other, you can talk it though sensibly and decide where to go from there.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with everyone else as long as your not hurting anyone, keep doing it, sounds like fun!!

    Do you really think the girl will actually tell you if she gets feeling for you? she may not think its what you want! tread carefully.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The Only Question i have for you is...

    Why should WE (thesite) tell you if it is RIGHT? or WRONG? ???

    I mean it seems to me that you are both aware of what you are doing and providing that you neither hurt each other mentally or physically then hey... its your life.. and if your old enough to have (forgive me...) "CASUAL" sex, your old enough to handle all its baggage!

    The thrill of being caught is GREAt i know that! It is obvious that you are (forgive me again!...) "USING" each other... this does not bother either of you WHICH IS GOOD!

    But please take care but HAVE FUN!! I WOULD!!

    NOMAD

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i had a similar problem my best frend sed she wanted 2 lose her virginity to me so we did it and then we did it again once more after.however it changed both our feelings about eachother and it kinda changed everything so be careful
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