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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi, I had better introduce myself again as I havent posted much!! My name is Chris. I'm 17. I'm from Bucks and i've been in a wonderful relationship for the last 6 months.

I hope you guys can help me. I have been having sex with my girlfriend for the last 3/4 months and it's been great but just lately my sex drive has completely diminished. I have just not been getting very horny lately. Its been really upsetting for my girlfriend because we have sex and I dont cum so she thinks that she doesnt turn me on any more. I'm pretty sure that she isnt the problem coz she is wonderful and very sexy and I just havent been turned on by anything much lately. I'm pretty sure its not stress coz I havent been under any lately! Does anyone have any idea what might cause this?

Thanx in advance for any replies.

Life is like a minefield, one false step and it all blows up in your face!! Check out my home on the web, http://chrissworld.cjb.net

[This message has been edited by Snakeman65 (edited 29-01-2001).]

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Snakeman,
    I think that your sex drive is probably just going through a dip at the moment - like biorythms are supposed to do. You can't expect your body to be up for it all the time and you are probably going to stress yourself out if you let it worry you.
    If your girlfriend wants sex, then just extend the foreplay for longer until you do feel horny. Or use the time to explore her whole body (whether by oral or touch methods) which will certainly bring her so much pleasure and make her feel all pampered and special. And you'll get extra points from her for being so unselfish.
    Good luck anyway!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    p.s. Are you able to cum alright when you wank?



    "One can't complain. I have my friends. Someone spoke to me only yesterday."
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can cum when I wank but I just havent felt the need to at all recently. I've gone from 1 or 2 a day to only having 2 in the last 3 weeks!!! :-( Maybe it is just a dip. Problem is my girlfriend can't seem to understand that. I always make sure she cums when we do anything but that just doesn't seem to be enough for her! Shes just upset that I dont seem to be getting much pleasure from her! Thanx for the speedy responce by the way!

    Life is like a minefield, one false step and it all blows up in your face!! Check out my home on the web, http://chrissworld.cjb.net
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe it's a chemical imbalance in your body, quite common, might be worth suffering the embarrassent & making a visit to your GP.

    j9

    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi again Chris,
    J9 is, of course, absolutely right. Mine were only possible suggestions but a check up with your Doc would be worth the effort. And it won't be THAT embarressing anyway 'cos you probably won't need to undress or give a semen sample (ew! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; ) - just tell him you are suffering from a very low libido.
    Perhaps, too, you ought to gently reassure your girlfriend that you love her as much as ever and that her fears are adding to your worries ...
    Good luck with everything, mate!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    a couple of Questions for you:

    Are you stressed ?
    Are you anxious about anything ?
    Do you feel depressed ?
    Are you on any form of medication that have sexual dysfunction as side effects ?

    These are possible factors for loss of desire I speak from experience I'd slowly not noticed the absence of sex or masturbation untill I was quizzed by my doctor have gone to him in tears over not having reached climax despite (on occasions) hours and hours of sex before it became to sore (even with KY jelly) he made me sit and think the last time I'd come, and it was a long time i'd even had the deisre to masturbate. If it's getting a reall problem go see your GP who'll be able to help sort out what's causing the problem. Try not to worry because it'll only add to the problems.

    Good Luck
    Luk

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by [email protected]:
    Hi again Chris,
    And it won't be THAT embarressing anyway 'cos you probably won't need to undress or give a semen sample (ew! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; ) - just tell him you are suffering from a very low libido.

    Prolly just a blood test to start off with <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    j9



    I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.

    MTS ^5 ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Chris,
    First of all, try talking to your girlfriend and explaining the problem, are you anxious about something!?

    Second, I have looked through your site and am impressed, and you have a very beautiful girlfriend.

    Third do you have an ICQ number?

    Fourth, can i use that little "made in notepad" icon in the corner of you page, cause i use notepad for developing as well.

    Cheers Electro
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    often a change in diet can result in a change in ur libido.

    if u really wanna be horny again there are loadsa great herbal remedies that u can by from a health store - herbal v for men, wellman, arena sativa oats, etc) i know because i work in one i don't purchase these items! lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    neway, maybe a change in ur sleeping pattern? too many late nights? chemical imbalance? the possibilities r endless... i'll do sum research 4u wen i go into work on saturday, we have loads of reference books! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Drifter

    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx for the replies every1. I'll talk to her some more and see what happenes when she stays over. I'll probably go see my gp (when my gf helps me get the confidence to do it!). I dont think its an eating thing, no less sleep lately no for depression or medication and nope on the anxiety front! Electro: thanx for all the compliments. I don't have icq but I do have MSN messanger: [email protected] and yahoo messanger: Snakemann65, and of course u can use the notepad thing!! Its pretty cool huh! I think I stole it off someone else tho!! :-) Thanx for the great help people.

    Life is like a minefield, one false step and it all blows up in your face!! Check out my home on the web, http://chrissworld.cjb.net
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey
    Don't worry bout it! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    The problem is you worry about cumming and so ur not. Its very simple really. Its a viscious (soz i cant spell) circle. Uve got to stop forcing yourself to be horny and to have sex. Ur g/f would prefere it if u were 100% into the sex rather than it being forced.
    Relax
    Im sure you will be fine.

    Lil Teapot xx
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