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What would you do if you friend....
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What would you do if your friend was really down alot of the time but wouldn't tell you what was wrong? They dont talk to you or any of your friends, unless you ask them a question and they just shrugs, or gives a really breif answer in a really quiet voice.
Some days they're fine, seems chirpier but still seems quieter then usual..... They've told a teacher whats going on but thats it....
Would you be angry at them for being miserable all the time?
Would you talk to the teacher to try sort it out?
Would you try be there for them no matter how they're moods turns out?
What would you do....?
Some days they're fine, seems chirpier but still seems quieter then usual..... They've told a teacher whats going on but thats it....
Would you be angry at them for being miserable all the time?
Would you talk to the teacher to try sort it out?
Would you try be there for them no matter how they're moods turns out?
What would you do....?
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I know it's upsetting when a friend seems to be keeping things back, but you must try and see it from her point of view. She has shared her problems with a teacher because she presumably thought the teacher was in the best position to help or advise. You must respect that decision. The fact that you and your other friends are beginning to get annoyed is really their problem, not hers. If the problem was something that the teacher thought was anything you could help with, I am sure they would have said something. As it is, it is a private matter and you need to let it go, rather than hold it against her. Hopefully, whatever it is will resolve itself and your friend will be back on form soon. Continue to be concerned by all means, but back off a little and keep it friendly. Your friend will appreciate it in the long run.
It's then, when everyone in the aftermath says "oh my god, I knew he was a bit calm and didn't talk a lot but I could never imagine him committing suicide."
But if it was, then wouldnt they be upset all the time? Cos I know at home they're ok... but thats so they're parents dont find out, and they're ok some days, recently this past few weeks they've been ok... just the odd day or two they're not 100% - :S
well, what is "ok". Jumping around in joy and singing songs? Or just animated enough to make conversation etc.?
Depression often has no immediate origin, something that directly links to the being depressed and most of the time people don't even recognize, often times the parents who want their kids to do good in school, and social life and just don't want it to be true.
Well Ok is like... sometimes just perfectly normal, talking chirped up - but mostly the dont mean it.... Depends really... but I really don't think it's depression... 'cos you would know right?
no you wouldn't.
No.
It's not depression because they're fine some of the time, just some times they are low... just teenage hormones?
When I don't want to speak to someone... I don't want to speak to someone. I wont, and the more they say about my attitude the less likely I am to speak to them.
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It just sounds like this person could be having problems that are much more than the normal teenager hang-ups; boys/girls, friends and everything else in-between. When you said that they talked to a teacher about it, it does make me think it is something serious(ish), if a close friend of mine talked to a tutor about the problem and not me, alarm bells would be ringing abit as you dont exactly ask a teacher what should you do about a boy/girl that you fancy. To me, when you ask for a teacher for help its because they know people who can help, numbers you can ring for advice. Am I making sense? ;|
And also, you and your friends saying "Well its annoying when your in that mood" really isnt helping. If your not saying that, then thats brill, but your probally making your friend feel even more closed off and less likley to confide in you with comments like that.
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But maybe if i say it'll make sence... Oh just made a bit of a confussion :L
Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realise it was a rhetorical question.
You're still wrong.
Nobody in my school except my closest friends knew about my depression or my harming. Nobody in my life right now except people I know from here know about my depression, the little episode I had a couple of weeks ago, or the fact that I'm having a nervous breakdown (I've spoken about it to a couple of people at work but both were after bad days and therefore hardly taken seriously). I present myself to everybody has happy and confident and whatever. My housemate doesn't even know and I've been living with her for 9 months.
But no, if you go the doctor your parents won't have to know unless you are a very real danger to yourself afaik. Unless you are my first doctor, who said told my mum she was a bad parent and therefore negated any sympathy my mum would have given me from then on.
Your saying you tend to know.. but others have said you don't :S
What do you do if you have depression!?
As to what you do? It depends on the person. Lots of people hide it and try and lead a normal life (like me, and it doesn't work so well). It's very individual.
But I really don't think it's any type of depression....
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I havn't explained this well so it's going to seem like i'm crowding them... but it isn't like that..... :S
Not unless they (in some cases) dont realise that they need help.
Also bleepy, no offence, but idgaf about your benefit. Your friend has chosen to not tell you about why they are feeling this way and you need to respect that and back the hell off.
:yes: exactly. This isn't about you Bleepy, let your friend live their life and make their own mistakes if that is how you want to see it!
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Eh?