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My mums' boyfriend..

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Has just split up with her. They've been together for months, and where together for years a couple of years ago.
I really don't know what to say to her :confused: She's upset but is trying to hide it, I can tell.
So, any advice? Thanks.
Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No, she'll tell me everything as soon as she gets back from the shop. She'll tell me everything, start crying, and then shout at me. I don't get on with my mum at all... I think I might just not say anything to her. This has happened before with the same guy.
    She doesn't have much luck with guys... and until she finds another she'll be all depressed and angry. Ohhh god :-( bring on the bad months.
    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    B-A correct me if I'm wrong but you dont have a perfect relationship with your mum? If this is the case, let her know that you are there for her but if she isnt happy with you trying to help, just give her a bit of space. I'm sure in time she will realise that you are only trying to help her.

    Hope you are both ok. xxx

    ah you replyed as I was posting. apologies
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No, she wont want a hug. Akk I don't know why I even made this.
    She'll just be angry for months and months.
    Fun. Not.
    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *hugs* I know its tough but hold in there. You're not alone :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe you could suggest you two watch a movie, a short game of cards or something together?

    Sometimes it's not words that's most comforting but the company. I think it might also help the relationship between you and her. Often, adults find it hard to talk as well. :o
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Take her out on the razz :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    haha shes a bit old, 33, and I'm a bit young, 12. Haha
    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Edit.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm bi :-p haha
    Xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    AHL- That made me lol :-) Thanks
    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    33 is fine. is your mum hot?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hahahahahaahahahahahahaha!!!!! I can't believe you just asked that.
    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    33 is fine. is your mum hot?

    :chin: :mrgreen::lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    33 is fine. is your mum hot?

    You're in there Strubss :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Broken-Angel wrote: »
    hahahahahaahahahahahahaha!!!!! I can't believe you just asked that.
    Xx

    Welll.... I've been watching MrFerrari09's thread....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    33 is fine. is your mum hot?

    If StrubbleS won't, I will :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Guys...
    Dont.Joke.About.Shagging.My.Mum it is just WRONG on SO many levels.
    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    fucking hell!!! I was joking!!!! jesus christ...
    To be honest, I dont care. Shes had loads of boyfriends and they are always nasty so I doubt she'll go out with anyone anyway!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I hate my mum, I've always hated my mum and I always will. I have my reasons, trust me.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have my reasons. And, I can hate who I like. It's my life, I shall do with it what I wish.
    Xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No, I'm not. I hate my mum, for justifiable reasons but I DO NOT need to tell you those. And I shant.
    Think what you will, as I said before, it's my life. I've TRIED to be nice to her, it doesn't work. It isn't worth my time, I've got bigger things to worry about. And, my dad pays for most things for me actually.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tbh I dont think some of these posts are helping B-A.

    My advice would be that if you feel this strongly against her, I'd give her some space. There is no point burning even more bridges by trying to give her help if you either know or can take a good chance that you two will fall out.

    Of course I have never been in your situation B-A and totally understand if you think otherwise to what I say. Just thought I'd add my thoughts. :) Hope everything is ok with you as I know you've had a rough time lately xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To be honest,
    you've got no ground to stand on. You don't live here, you don't know me or my mum so you have no idea what happens. We don't get on and it works better for us both when I am either not here, or in another room.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    geneve, after reading most of B-A's posts, I'd say she is quite mature for her age. Sometimes though, when feelings are so strong you cant see the point in trying. I dunno if its a teenager thing (being one myself currently) but I know it happens. She is having a rough time just now, and I think she needs some support from people on here, as her family arent always there for her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    With time and distance, B-A's relationship with her mother may improve. Maturity doesn't really come into it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    when you believe someone greatly dislikes you, and you dislike them, it may be very difficult for people to mend broken relationships like that.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't hate her out of choice! Just leave it now, I'm not in a good mood and I don't want to say something to you that'll get me banned or something.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Geneve stop stirring. You do not know the situation therefore have no right to preach about forgiving. its up to B-A what she does and *if* she forgives her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    for fuck sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I HATE MY MUM FOR GOOD REASONS, I TRY TO BE NICE WHEN I CAN BUT IT NEVER FUCKING WORKS. Maybe, sometimes I want to be nice to her. But right now, today, she has upset me and I couldn't give a shit about her.
    And if I'm honest, I don't care what you think of me.

    Jim or any other mod PLEASE just close this thread now.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Broken-Angel wrote: »
    ... they are always nasty so I doubt she'll go out with anyone anyway!

    tell her you know this nice lad from the internet. *applies mouthspray*

    /e: on topic: (ok, the first thing was on topic too, but this is more on topic): if you hate your mum and there is no kind of connection between you I can't see any sense in trying to comfort her or talk to her about it. Just carry on with your life.
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