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Newbie with a bladder/sex problem kinda embarisin pls help!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
First of all hello! even tho you dont know me I still feel kinda embaressed explaining this problem.

Thing is im 18 an havent had sex yet which im perfectly fine with an im just waiting for the right guy.

But I have had a bit of sexual experience with a couple of ex boyfriends, and they have fingered me. I have noticed recently when my now ex did use his fingers that i had to tense a little because i thought i was going to have to wee <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

At first i thought that was ok perhaps that i jus needed the toilet but i didnt. It started to worry me an so i experimented on myself and by fingering myself i made myself wee when i didnt need the toilet.

I dont know what to do im not seeing any one at the moment but when i am i obviously dont want to be runing to the toilet! or worse!!

Does any one know what the problem is? Im guessing its got something to do with me pushing on my bladder?? any one else experienced anything similar?? Dont get me wrong it takes a bit a fingering to get me to wee but i am worried.

As I mentioned I havent had sex yet and so would this not be worse than a finger or two! and press more on the bladder if thats what the problem is? I dont even know if that is the problem!

Please help, i dont want to go to the doctors! thanx

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx for your ideas, it is only when he inserts his fingers

    Thing is when i did experiment on myself after a while i did wee, so now im not relaxed enough when im with a lad.
    I know im not going to orgasm if im not relaxed <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> but i also know i wont wee!

    But i think not bein relaxed is gunna end up bein a bad idea especially when i decide to have sex
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if it's only when his fingers are inside you, it's because your G-spot is being stimulated. I forget the technical term, but the G-spot is connected to the urethra somehow and continual stimulation does make you feel you need the toilet. this is assuming he isn't stimulating you anywhere else, because that tends to override the needing-to-pee effect. and yes, it can actually make you pee.

    I think virtually every girl has this feeling the first time she masturbates/is fingered. I know I did (sorry if this is too much info!) and you do get over it. concentrating on other things, as it were <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    there is definitely a scientific explanation with lots of long words in it, but I've forgotten them lol. do a search on the Net if you like, you may well find it.

    for me it doesn't happen any more, and that must be the case for the vast majority because otherwise there'd be more publicity about it. I'm sure the same will happen for you. there's no need to worry about it. to make you feel more relaxed, how about going to the loo a while before such things occur (if you can predict, of course!)? that, and lots of practise, will make you much more confident <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    edited to say: welcome to thesite <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    [ 24-02-2002: Message edited by: stellar ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hiya,

    I have this aswell and was also gettin kinda worried bout it - is relaxing the only thing we can do? and anyhow I thought the g-spot was really difficult to find, and some people have debated its existence! whats goin on its all so confusing... much too much! hehe

    ***faerie***
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey,

    Hello listen My girlfriend always are talking about sex and she said when she is going to have sex with me etc, she always goes to the toliet because she is excited which makes her need to go to the toliet...

    P.S maybe my girlfriends weird but lol I think thats the truth!! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its a common joke between my bf and me that he knows exactly when i want sex because i run off to the loo in a flash. Once i've been then its fine but you do notice just before you orgasm that u feel the need to wee. it worried me at first too but the feeling just turned into an orgasm.
    Try not to worry coz then you won't get an orgasm at all <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    I used to get this problem all the time, when he fingers you he is putting pressure on your bladder from the inside thus making you want to wee. You will get the same effect if you pressed on the outside and has nothing to do with your g spot, which isn't connected to you bladder infact many specialist, now say it doesn't even exist

    Try going to the toilet before you go and the problem should be much less
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i get the same thing too but going to the toilet b4 doesn't always help. i havent actually wet my self yet but im still paranoid after 8 months! <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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