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Can't bring girlfriend to orgasm.
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I've just been told that my girlfriend "Can't orgasm with me"
We haven't had sex, but we have done a lot together.
Basically, now I feel like a useless piece of shit.
Help, please :crying:
We haven't had sex, but we have done a lot together.
Basically, now I feel like a useless piece of shit.
Help, please :crying:
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I never told her to or expected her to at all, she knows that, and we are both kind of inexperienced.
She said it might have been nerves too, but I just feel so completely inept.
I dunno, i'm just really worried i'll never be able to return the favour, which makes me feel incredibly guilty.
Thats why i'm worried; Last time, I spent pretty much the entire time pleasuring her in every way I could
She said she doesn't know, I just can't get her to orgasm.
She enjoys it, and I can get her close, but not all the way.
be creative with milk :thumb:
Oral is my strongest point, supposedly.
Can she orgasm by herself? If she knows what will get her off it will make it easier for her to tell you. Make sure next time that she's controlling everthing you do and ask her to tell you, faster, slower, gentler, harder, up, down, whatever she needs.
Also, I know it must be difficult to not be able to pleasure your partner like she does you, but dont rub it in and say 'Oh i feel so guilty, my ego is crushed bla bla bla', because then she'll feel like she's letting you down and may end up faking just to please you.
I didn't say that stuff to her, and she knows i'd never say it. On the contrary, I don't care about my pleasure, it's hers that matters to me.
She can get off by herself, and it's literally just me it would seem. Even doing the things she does can't bring her to orgasm
Yeah, I thought of something like that, i'd just feel really weird saying it, if you know what I mean.
But yeah, I probably will.
Yeah, true
Thanks guys, I guess I just completely freaked, but I feel better now
who is "words"
Less than a tenner and the skills will last you a lifetime! If she's never been able to have a guy pleasure her to orgasm, teacing you will be especially difficult. Even if she has experienced orgasm with a guy that isn't you, it still doesn't place her in the best position to teach you how to do it.
Thanks
And no, i'm the first guy she's even been sexual with.
Actually, I was her first hug, kiss, everything.
We've been on and off for a year, but I wasn't her first breakup, kthnx.
Say wha?
Please explain the context of that
The book isn't perfect, and no I'm not on commission, but if you read it together you will be able to take what works for you two from it and then use those pounts as starting points of sexual communication o build her pleasure up in a safe way to her orgasm and/or satisfaction.
Yeah, I really will look into getting it
Edit:
Turns out, it was just nerves etc, we're fine now
Thanks guys
Very cute. Reading this has made me think you'll definatly be able to work through it without any books or special ways of doing things!! Always remember, CLITORUS!!:p
Another thing you might want to ask her to try is Vitamin E.
When used locally in the vagina it can help rehydrate tissue and may possibly increase sensation.