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Yeah sure whatever, I was just hoping someone could explain it to me, that's all. It seems weird to me, but I'm open to having my mind changed, so I thought if I asked, someone could explain in what way this is a relationship, and how people can have relationships online.
I'm just interested because I've never even had any online friends, let alone a boyfriend, so I'm wondering how it works, that's all.
It's just like an offline friendship - you talk, connect with people right. It's not for me because it lacks some very substantial and important elements but if it makes some people happy then fair play to them.
Unfortunately, I hear he's in moderation.
edit: well says theyre engaged.
and 8months god your aiming hi JS...
It may be worth remembering why TheSite is here Hellfire. (admittedly I understand the irony of saying that in a thread about a 12 year old and a 15 year old's online relationship but it slipped out before I thought about it...)
Do your parents know about this? I mean, the age gap (yes, I know it;s only 3 years...) and the fact that you'replanning on meeting up?
In all seriousness how is anyone suppose to take this whole thread serious. I mean honestly Good luck to them as I have said but I can't help to think it's a doomed relationship, hey if it works good luck but come-on....
WTF your mum allows you to ROAM the country go anywhere you want and meet randoms from the net....
ok....... i am for once speechless
If the two of them are enjoying themselves, what's the harm? They're both young and going through a stage of trials and error. I remember I had to try a lot on my own skin at that age. Some things worked, others didn't.
My LDR never-met-the-guy relationship failed and I remember how heartbroken I was. It was however a learning curve that I don't regret having gone through.
You can actually form very tight bonds with someone you only know over the net. For instance, how much does your online buddy know about you that your irl friends don't? I expect they know more because you can relax and just say whatever. Who are you then closer to, the people you see every day in person who don't know what you're thinking, or thepeople who you never see but know exactly how you think and are thinking.
I have online friends who I hold in the same esteem as offline friends. So, whilst I've never had a purely online sexual/partener/lover relationship, I can still see how it can be important.
I went to my first TheSite meet at 15. Granted I went with someone my mum knew (or rather, I told her I did....er....) and it was a public place, but I would hope if these two are sensible, they will do the same the first time they meet.
I actually agree with Jaloux and Katralla in some respects - while I'm sceptical about the relationship aspect because I've been-there-done-that, I know how easy it is to form very close bonds of friendship with people over the net. In my case, once we'd met and been friends a while it led to more and we're still going strong(ish) 3 and a half years later.
I would hope though - this is to you Jordan and B-A - that you ARE sensible enough to meet publically and with friends around you. Sometimes you can think you know someone and it turns around and bites you in the ass. Be careful, and be extra careful about throwing around big words when you haven't even met yet. I know how much that can hurt later down the line when you realise neither of you really meant it.
Good luck to you guys. I still think it's adorable
Haha!! No-body has ever described me, or anything to do with me, adorable before!
Well, when Jordan and I do meet (which I am pretty sure we will) it would be in a public place and yes I probably would have friends with me.
Neither of us ever said it would last for ever.. maybe a week, maybe a year. Or maybe it will last forever. If we don't know, the no-body else does. Even married couples split up, so who knows how long we'll last. But I, and Jordan, will try and make it work as best we can for as long as we can
But, at the moment at least, we are happy with the arengments. No, it's not ideal. Of course we would like to see each other more than we can, but we can't.
And, my mum knows I have online friends. Admitidly, she doesn't know I am dating one of them. But she wouldn't mind, Jordan is year 11 meaning we could be in the same school. I have, as you may well remember, dated a year 11 before that my mum knew about.
And Jordan... I am not a fat bloke. I am an angel :angel: Haha!
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But..but... i'm coming to NZ on Thursday! perfect...
I know haha
HI!!! Then I'll meet you all at the airport and it will be an orgy.
At the airport.
:yes: I was v.close to teh_gerbil for ages before he disappeared. I still hope to meet him when I venture over next year though. But it's a learning curve, I learnt, and am now (and still was v.cynical) about LDR regarding rarely/never seeing eachother
Are they still together? I was wondering about that the other day. I still remember when they got together.
I've met at lot of good (and not so good) people on here over the years, including the one person who turned into a very good friend, who shall remain nameless, but knows I love them very much, if I dont see them that often these days.
As for the thread matter. Extreme caution required. The age gap is one thing, plus knowing someone online and in real life can be two very different things.
Yup. They are very happy and very much in love.
For the thread, I do advise caution too. But I do that for any new romance, particularly ones that have started online. But I ain't gonna preach to you or be mean, like some of the comments on here. Some of which, might I add, were pretty unnecessary, but hey, in some respects it was gonna happen.
As long as you guys are happy about whatever it is you have going on, then that is the main thing :thumb:
:yes: Not that this is always a bad thing of course.
Saw this one coming.
I have tried to pull some thesite guys in my time but failed
Soo did I hahaa!! When I first joined, and read his posts, I was like "he will be mine"
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..stalker..!
hahaha I soo am aren't I?
It paid off though :razz:
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