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Can't make him cum :(

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hiya,

Bit of a weird situation for me. I've always suffered from bad sex really.... boyfriends that come wayyyy too quickly but my new guy has the opposite problem.

We've been having sex for about 2 months now and he's come...twice? And that's because he's told me to keep still.

He said to me at the beginning that he's always had a problem with cuming and it can take HOURS. I thought pfft but I was so wrong. We've discussed it and even though I know it's not my fault it's really frustrating. I end up getting off 2 or 3 times and then I end up becoming utterly exhausted (as he is more likely to cum when I'm on top) and you know... everything kind of seizes up and starts to hurt.

It's such a bizarre situation, all my tips and tricks that I would usually use don't work (and in fact he finds them stupidly ticklish which puts him off and giggle like Elmo haha).

Should I worry about this so soon into the relationship or is it something that will just get better with time?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    doesnt sound much fun!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    He is probably wanking too vigorously.

    Get him to first of all, not wank for a few days before you have sex, and second, to try and get used to wanking less vigorously and efficiently. I think some men find that they have got so used to their own hand and their own rhythm that nothing else works.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, when we first got together he didn't touch himself for dayssssss.

    And yeah, we change around a lot, more because my knees give way or his his neck starts clicking etc.

    He doesn't think sex is good if it lasts for ages... though he's watched a lot of porn (finally found a man that admits it, halle-fucking-luijiah!)

    We don't really get the chance to get down a lot as my bed is squeaky as fuck and my dad's home a lot and the one time we went down the beach in his car turns out we found some sort of cult dogging spot and sped out of there pretty quickly.

    I'm just not sure what to do. He says it's not a big deal and reassures me that it's not me and yes, I know that but it's a big deal for me. I want to be able to pleasure my boyfriend. I want him to feel the same things I do. It's sooo frustrating! :S
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If he says it's not a big deal, it's probably not - at least for him.

    Does it bother you, and why? Just because he doesn't come doesn't mean he isn't having a very good time - If he wasn't he wouldn't be bothering
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    when im on top, my bf likes me to grind on him then he likes holding me still with hes hands around me, while he makes most if not all the movement.....

    or if im on the bottom, he likes me to kepe my legs together and not move... i duno if it makes it feel tighter or what but its not just your boyfriend,
    doesnt bother me, less work for pleasure ;p


    but if he didnt enjoy it, he wouldnt do it
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