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Why do I want to be alone?
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I have a question:
Why do I just want to be alone? for example I'd rather sit in my room by myself than hangout with my friends.
Was wondering do you think is it because I wasn't really allowed out during my childhood (so it is ingrained in my head)? I want to be more sociable but it scares me and makes me uncomfortable.
does this make sense? I want to understand.
Why do I just want to be alone? for example I'd rather sit in my room by myself than hangout with my friends.
Was wondering do you think is it because I wasn't really allowed out during my childhood (so it is ingrained in my head)? I want to be more sociable but it scares me and makes me uncomfortable.
does this make sense? I want to understand.
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yeah I'm not an only child (have a brother) but have always spent my evening listening to music alone in my room and reading whilst growing up. now that i'm at uni, i still find it hard to be sociable but am trying my best becuase much as I love being alone, there is only so much of it I can take!
Getting something like alcohol down me does help but then it is only a temporary measure!
I have a bf and even find it hard being around him some of the time, I don't really know what to say/do and am conscious of this and always think "how does this person see me? do they like me? did i say the right thing?" it's crazy.
Just really wondered if I am destined to follow this the rest of my life or if there is hope to be more comfortable with people. :banghead:
It does get easier, the older you get and the more you do it.
TBH I enjoy being a loner, as it gives me a good excuse to spend too much money on music.
I wouldnt worry about being the way you are, as the others said just remember to relax and maybe spend more time with the people you are comfortable with so when it comes to new people you know how to behave.
I. for example. enjoy my free time, by being alone in whatever place I like. Even though society might label me anti-social, but I don't see the problem.
To me, what's important is I am happy with what I am doing and I don't need others' approval to make myself happy.
Not that I get it very often.
Its just as normal to be a bit of a loner, as it is to be wildly sociable.
As long as you CAN be sociable if you need to be and it doesnt cause you lots of problems with anxiety etc, then its just down to personal preference
Might be worth looking at some introductory information on the difference between an extroverted and introverted personality - two complete natural ways of being that can help understand the difference between what people enjoy socially.
For once the wikipedia page doesn't seem like a bad place to start -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion
This isn't to say you can't enjoy going out more or find ways to be more comfortable in social situations - that's more than likely possible - it's just good to see if the article makes sense and maybe that can help you understand where you're coming from?
Yeah, maybe you are like that because you are an only child, but it could be your personality or from experiences in your life.. i know people who had no siblings and they seem pretty confident.. maybe a bit quiet at times..
it could be a number of things.
I thought it was just me, everyone else I know seems to like social situations.