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am appauled to have found myself in a silly and impossible situation. i am persistently sexually harrased about because i don't do it.
i have sat through at least 5 years of inhuman and degrading treatment because 'i can't do it' so i decided a few years back I wont do it.
It's not strictly the only option sadly, but is in effect the only option to reduce my immense and unprecedented suffering. commit sexual offenses. I feel i am broadly supported by male domianted society too. There are various incentives in place to induce me to commit sex crime... "others will see you then" or various other often explicit truths I have picked up from life and the past. sex was always the bain of my existence and it's come to head at 20, i'm now 25. affected my personality hugely for 8/9 years.
you won't have ever met someone in my position so think carefully and fairly before you hit reply.
i have sat through at least 5 years of inhuman and degrading treatment because 'i can't do it' so i decided a few years back I wont do it.
It's not strictly the only option sadly, but is in effect the only option to reduce my immense and unprecedented suffering. commit sexual offenses. I feel i am broadly supported by male domianted society too. There are various incentives in place to induce me to commit sex crime... "others will see you then" or various other often explicit truths I have picked up from life and the past. sex was always the bain of my existence and it's come to head at 20, i'm now 25. affected my personality hugely for 8/9 years.
you won't have ever met someone in my position so think carefully and fairly before you hit reply.
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If that is the case then you need to seek some help before you hurt someone. Raping someone will fuck them up pretty badly and it's not a nice thing to inflict upon someone so for the sake of others and the sake of your freedom get some help.
The other mistake you're making is thinking that your 'immense suffering' will somehow evaporate if you manage to have sex with someone, by whatever means. It won't. Your suffering is psychological, and won't suddenly disappear as soon as coitus has finished. You need help for your emotional suffering, and the main issue is to address that, before you even think about trying to have sexual relationships.
That is just too fucked up for words.
Cheer up son.
Great advice. Is that the same that you would say to some innocent female that comes on the board claiming she has been raped by such a person as above? This is SERIOUS, this person needs help soon before he acts on what he is feeling. 'Cheering up' is the least of his worries.
Obviously not. What a strange thing to ask!
No. No, no, no, no. No. The OP is clearly about as serious as an ITV3 documentary. Think about it: would somebody contemplating - maybe evening planning - committing a serious crime spout off about it on the internet?! It's just so implausible on so many levels.
You obviously are yet to learn how stupid some people are.
This person isn't saying "I am going to go and rape someone right now" they are possibly saying that is how they feel, and obviously are asking for help before the worst happens.
As you say it could be complete bullshit but there is nothing to confirm this.
Mate, the lad posted a thread about shagging a dog ffs.
He wasn't shagging a dog though, someone else was, and these things do happen, but yes that may have been untrue but you never know.
OK, I admire your open-mindedness, but I am definitely calling BS on this one :razz:
That's fair enough, I appreciate why, it's clearly understandable. It's just some things are far fetched and not what you would call 'normal' but if everyone thought 'yeah right' a lot of people would not get the help that they actually need. It's best to give some advice than completely ignore it. That way if it is genuine you've tried to help rather than walk away
If this guy is talking about non-consensual sex (ie raping people) and how he can't control himself I think the Mods should be taking an active interest in finding out who he is.....
:yes:
Who is Steelgate? A troll?
He was, long ago. He advocated that the rape of women was a man's right, his real name was Angus, and by my recollection he lost his virginity in his 40's to a prostitute. This guy might just be confused, but he sounds similar.
To the OP - TheSite.org aims to support people who are dealing with problems and our approach to helping people is rooted in harm reduction. Therefore, we will never encourage any illegal activity, and particularly not activity which causes serious damage to others as the offences you mention do.
Often when people commit sexual offences , they are motivated by unhealthy desires such as the need to exert power and control over another person. If you feel that you are battling with desires that could cause misery for yourself and others then it would be advisable to get in touch with SANE. This is an organisation which offers emotional support to people dealing with mental health problems.
If you want to put a stop to your thoughts about abuse, and or you have a history of violent behaviour then we would recommend calling the Respect helpline on 0845 122 8609.
Please be wary that this thread might have to be closed if it gets out of hand, but the above signposting should get you on the right track to start to deal with the issues you've mentioned.
i might contact those numbers helen thanks
Might?
Why bother creating this thread if you're not gonna take the advice?
I strongly advise that you do, for others sake and yours. If these feelings get out of hand you're going to ruin a woman's life (or even a man's for all I know) and you're likely to end up in prison. Not a nice life for either.
Because it takes courage. A lot of people say they might, just so they can work up the courage until they do.
The the OP - please please do use the info given!
Fair One :thumb:
Innit.
Bruv, thoughts such as the one's you're having are dangerous... you have an opportunity to get help and sort it all out now before you fuck up your own life and destroy someone elses.