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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It could be good that your Gp has sent you a letter, it would take me by surprise too but could it be he push you need to make an appointment?

    I'm putting off going to my Gp but for slightly different reasons, but deep down I know I should go. Maybe you feel the same?

    Would it be bad if he picked up on these things? If you go, and he picks up on a few things then he will help. But I do understand you are not jumping at the chance to make an appointment. It's just I think it would put your mind at rest if you went.

    At the end of the day no one is forcing you to go, and you should do what you think is right even if that is the hard option and you go to your Gp.

    *hugs*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Anyway I'm not sure what I'm looking for, advice or moral support, but either way I needed to vent.

    Would it not be best for your doctor to see how you actually are? ;)
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    No, not in the slighest. But maybe one of the best ways to get your life back would be to use the resources avaliable. Go and see your GP, be reasonably honest while you're there. It's not uncommon for people with depression to have a slight yo-yo tendancy so what you really want to try and pre empt and prevent is coming crashing down again.

    As for being all over the place with your work, have you tried a little self bribery, carrot and stick and all that, don't let yourself do x until you've finished one of the essays, even if it's not great.
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    :)

    I hope it goes well.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just to chip in, i've experienced this with depression as well, it's not manic exactly.... but...kind of driven, in a way, and then sometimes i have weird moments when i can't slow down my thoughts etc.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    skakitty wrote: »
    Just to chip in, i've experienced this with depression as well, it's not manic exactly.... but...kind of driven, in a way, and then sometimes i have weird moments when i can't slow down my thoughts etc.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nope, just the anti depressants. I've found its when I have underlying anxiousness ....but its kinda taken over by the depression... the closet diagnosis I've had is 'agitated depression'
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    well it may be worth checking out the symptoms for a mixed episode or you might be slightly hypomanic? but the good news is, you have insight into your moods- that's always good!
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    I don't think I need to see the psychiatrist.

    Yes, you do. Seeing a psychiatrist doesn't mean drugs and the funny farm but you DO need to get a proper diagnosis.

    If you had cancer and your G.P. said you needed to see a specialist, you'd go wouldn't you ? This is the same. Your G.P. is exactly that a GENERAL practioner. You need to go see someone better qualified and more used to people with mental health problems, get a proper diagnosis and a course of treatment sorted out. You also need to find out why this is happening to you and if the cause can be eliminated or worked around.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ^^ What he said.

    It's always good to remember that GPs are in fact just that, general practitioners and a solid first port of call. They're also pretty good at managing on going issues, but not all that hot at coming up with the best diagnosis and treatment/management plan. If you get offered a referral then go for it, apart from anything else the specialist knows far more about what they're doing and won't try and diagnose based on a tick list like GPs often end up doing for mental health concerns.
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    It can be very scary when it's you in a position. I've most definitely been there when I know the exact advice I'd give to someone else, yet to do it yourself is always so much harder.

    But do keep trying to take a step back and look at what you'd suggest doing for someone else, and the reasons for it, and hopefully that will reassure you that it's the best thing to be doing to look after yourself.

    It's also worth remembering that you're far less likely to get an inaccurate diagnosis from a specialist than you are from a GP. Specialists tend to err far more on caution and stick with treating the person in front of them rather than getting to a official disease label because they have the professional experience to do so, whereas GPs often go for the closest fit label because that's how their system works.

    Don't get me wrong, GPs are a hugely valuable and useful resource and should always be used as a first port of call, but if they are offering better then jump at it rather than shy away.

    I can appreciate your career concerns, but it's worth remembering a few things:

    1. Your medical records are confidential

    2. You've got to be honest to occupational health, you've had problems, that you can't change, and if asked then you'll have to tell an employer about them. You've had medical support so it's already on your notes, the further details won't make any real difference and actually a definite, she's fine to manage herself now from a specialist will carry far more strength than something vague from a GP based on their notes.

    3. Your employer can't discriminate on those grounds under DDA

    4. Your career prospects will be a lot stronger if you get good support and can keep yourself well.

    hugs.
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    olla wrote: »
    Change the atmosphere

    I didn't realise I was causing an atmosphere....
    olla wrote:
    buy some animal:chin:

    It's amazing how so many people can so often jump to so many of the wrong conclusions.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wouldn't necessarily focus on those comments girl_afraid, I don't think Olla is expressing themselves in a way that makes complete sense.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't know what job you do, but I work in the advice sector with some pretty vulnerable clients. Although my work don't know the full extent of my diagnosis ("depression and anxiety" can cover a multitude of sins) it hasn't affected my career. And I had a pretty heavyweight diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder.

    If you've been offered a consultant psychiatrist referral then you're mad to turn it down. On the NHS they are like gold dust and if a GP is offering a referral then they obviously believe it's something you'd benefit from. I got three years therapy out of the NHS because of a consultant psychiatrist- she bumped me to the top of the waiting list- and that's something that anyone could benefit from.

    Seeing a consultant won't see you sectioned or won't see your career destroyed. Even the general social work council won't kick someone out solely on the basis of a diagnosis.
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    Alcohol can help, as can sleeping tablets... but neither is a long-term solution. They can help take the edge off from time to time...
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    Alcohol can help, as can sleeping tablets... but neither is a long-term solution. They can help take the edge off from time to time...

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It can help... but it can also just "enhance" your mood - possibly making you more alert and hyper.

    Asda do some over-the-counter sleep-aid tablets, they may be a better short-term solution?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What about doing some exercise? Going swimming or going for a walk? Could help burn off some energy and make you a bit more sleepy later :)
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    I think it's a really good idea to make an appointment, he's already made appointments with you to check how things are going so I'm sure there wouldn't be any problems with you seeing him now.

    After a GP's services are something that's there for you to use whenever you need. Feeling like you'd like to discuss something that's bothering you early rather than waiting and it maybe getting worse is something that makes finding a solution much easier.
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    Have a sit in the park, watch the world go by for a bit? You may feel a little better after a while...
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