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people seem to think i have loads of money because i (have in the past) been able to buy a new pair of shoes when i've needed them and that i get top wack loan - not that i tell everyone that. but even if i don't have to pay for things that they might, i came to uni already in debt after being ill and living independently since i was 16...
with £150 of food going missing over a term, and having to buy so many replacement items that had been stolen or broken, it mounts up, and i've ended up in the posistion i am now...utterly skint...
agreeeeed. it isnt fair your friends are doing that! dont let them get away with it
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And get a job :thumb:
lol
Also she says she 'eats out a lot'. Now that, to me, implies she has money to spare. I go to the cinema because it is an 'experience' and you get to see films at least a year before they're on tv. I go to the pub as it's moderately cheap for a few hours sociallising. I go to clubs because i can hear loud music without annoying the neighbours etc...
But eating out, to me, is a bit of waste of money especially 'eating out a lot' If it was a big family do or special ocassion then ok but to 'eat out a lot' then complain that people think you have money to burn is shortsighted in the least. And i really don't think your maintenance grant was intended for you to 'eat out a lot'.
I think she might also need some referal r.e. her parents' divorce.
Excuse me whilst my heart fails to bleed.
Well you're just grumpy
I wasn't surprised that it's another journalism student trying to get something up on the internet so they can put it in their CV, but ah well.
Point 1: I do agree with her that students do judge other students on their financial status and particularly those who get more loan or less loan. I've been getting it in the neck since I had EMA, so these days I just don't tell anyone. It's none of their business anyway!
Point 2: she has no excuse for being hard up if she's as reckless with her money as she says. For starters, it doesn't matter if you are a millionaire or living on benefits, if you don't look after your money you soon won't have any. But even so, if she didn't get the full loan and grant she would soon be crying and begging her friends and parents for money if she continued the way she is. Something I learnt not too long ago is to live within your means, your outside of them. Can't afford a car but really want one? So what, you can't afford one.
Point 3: Get a job!
They do. Not always the way round you'd expect, either. I remember getting all sorts of attitude because my parents helped me out with money through uni.
I didn't get diddly squat from the government, and I worked part time (full time in the holidays) from 15 onwards, but somehow they thought that I was a spoilt brat because my mum and dad chose to put some of their hard-earned cash towards my tuition fees. :chin:
Oh, and my idea of 'eating out' while I was a student was nipping home to scrounge a meal off my mum. :thumb:
lol, I'm sure some people would agree with you there.
Generalisation much about single parents?
Doesn't sound like it love.
When I was at uni, some people had more money than me, some had less. Big deal. It's called life. So shut your whining trap and do some fucking studying.
And you're extremely grumpy!
Seriously though, what's the thrust of her rant? This seems to sum it up quite nicely;
From this I can ascertain two things:
1) Some people are richer than others and buy things for their children
2) The author doesn't like the fact that her friend has more money than her. Jealousy perhaps, trussed up as moral indignation?
Grow the fuck up. So it's not fair, big fucking deal. Life is not fair. The sooner she gets over it, the better. Reverend Spooner woul have called her a shining wit.
Shouldnt really have the right to complain about a friend having £2k of savings, hey whats wrong with being prudent.
I also could have a job because of our unpaid placements that were spaced out randomly through the year and meant I had to move house all the time.
I'm only pointing this stuff out as a comparison. I'm not moaning, because I am glad I went to uni, I've now got the opportunity to go and do the career I wanted. No one forces you to go to uni though, and I met so many people who were just there for the hell of it, which is fine, but it is their decision.
I don't understand why more people don't talk to their universities and students unions about their finances, especially if money is tight.
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Who is she ranting at here? Her friends, Student Finance, or her parents for getting divorced?
Yes, students sponge off their friends, but there are students out there who get it in the neck from scrounging friends a lot worse than this girl does.
I did say in my last post, I didn't qualify for a busary (which is the NHS one I was talking about). It doesn't take much of a high wage your parents are earning to stop you getting it. On my course it was means tested so they look at your parents income. Other course it's non means tested, so it's a value for everyone.
I admit I had a couple of friends like this when I was at Uni. And I did find it a bit annoying. Not because I'm jealuous but because of their lack of appreciation for what they have when some people, like myself, have struggled for money in the past.
I am more than happy I went through that struggle now because I have come away with some very valuable life lessons about how to manage my finances.:)
But then aren't we all the same when we go and spend our time on the internet and having luxuries when many in the world have to walk miles just to get food and water and live a hand-to-mouth existence?
Everyone has different incomes and the sooner people stop caring about what everyone else has and focuses on themselves the better imo.