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online dating...and some more
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Ok, so i've been on a couple of sites for a few months, had a fair share of nutters, weridos and time wasters, but this latest guy seems so lovely, we get on really well, i've just spent hours talking to him on the phone and we've agreed to meet up at some point on neutral ground...
i'm making sure that i'm not gonna fall hard and fast like i have done so many times before, and we're taking it all at slow pace...
i'm just wondering what i can do to not make many of the mistakes i have made frequently before.
there are some issues with the whole thing, i live in london, and study full time, he works full time and lives in cheltenham - though we were talking about meeting up and both of us are willing to travel...
Also, i'm still recovering from a breakdown. I'm much much stronger than i was, and i wouldn't have followed this guy up if i wasn't feeling strong enough to go with it, i did tell him a little bit about it and he seemed very supportive and understanding which was good...
any tips and advice woulde be great!
i'm making sure that i'm not gonna fall hard and fast like i have done so many times before, and we're taking it all at slow pace...
i'm just wondering what i can do to not make many of the mistakes i have made frequently before.
there are some issues with the whole thing, i live in london, and study full time, he works full time and lives in cheltenham - though we were talking about meeting up and both of us are willing to travel...
Also, i'm still recovering from a breakdown. I'm much much stronger than i was, and i wouldn't have followed this guy up if i wasn't feeling strong enough to go with it, i did tell him a little bit about it and he seemed very supportive and understanding which was good...
any tips and advice woulde be great!
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Its not you is it?
Go steady, take it easy and (from exp.) don't lay the heavy shit down too early. Baggage is good, it makes people human, but he's coming to see you and get to know you, not your past/issues/whatever.
Relax, have fun and i've just washed out the 'special draws' so if you need anything rubbery, leathery, clampy.................
I'd say mostly people do rush in thinking they are onto something life changing, for me I'd rather go with the flow, see what happens.. I don't even think online dating is the proper way for anyone to go.. it's like rushing.. rushing to find a date.
Sure to cause trouble if it goes wrong.
probably all very normal but still...
I haven't met anyone via on-line dating though so don't take my word for it - report back after though so we know how it went
Good luck!
thanks for all the advice guys!
Are you going to meet again? Whats he like in real life? What did you do - coffee? dinner? snogging?!
we went for breakfast by the thames - and he gave me this bunch of fake red roses which were really sweet and tied up in ribbons - real ones wouldn't have lasted the journey, and then we went to tate modern, and then we went for lunch at wagamama, and then we went to selfridges for root beer and fluff! and then came back to mine...and thats all i'm saying!
I'm going to stay with him tomorrow night til sunday...really looking forward to it.
Did you meet via OKCupid? I'm on there and have chatted with a few guys but I'm way too scared to actually meet anyone
Just take a minute to breathe, girl.
Agree. I don't wanna piss on your parade Trinity but i saw in a post of yours today you already call him boyfriend. Slow it down a bit.
Damn beat me to that one!
Fully agree. I'm glad you're happy and you like the bloke but based on the info you provided and what i've gleaned from here i'd say just slow it down a little and hold some in reserve I feel quite mean saying it as you're obviously happy but try to not throw 100% of emotion in too soon.
And so speaks the cynical realist
I'm chuffed for you :thumb: just don't get hurt by wearing your heart on your sleeve and all those metaphors that you've heard before no doubt good luck!