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I entered thesite fantasy football, which required your full name. Someone copied and pasted and the details of everyone in the league.
I did a google search of myself over a year later to see how famous i've got:cool: only find that thesite post linked to the first google match of my name.
Was not happy!
Dirty boy!
Wouldn't you want him to know you and love you for everything you are? Good things, bad things, geeky things - everything?
If he doesn't know every side of you then he doesn't know you at all, imo.
Also, what's wrong with geeky things?!?!?!?!? And have you ever thought that maybe some of the things he doesn't know about you that he would be hurt to find out you've kept from him? I know I would be.
the other week i showed my boyfriend my old myspace completely forgetting about all the blogs i used to make. he was teasing me asking what it is and i said dont click so naturally the git clicked. cue an angsty blog i made about 2 years ago
lots of people on here seem to use the internet to vent where they may not be able to do it offline. my friends and boyfriend obviously dont. you can still be in a loving/caring relationship without your boyfriend or friends 'getting it'.
plus there is no need to tell them everything. feminine mystique and all that
If that works for you, it's fair enough, but I couldn't do it. I have in the past, and it didn't go so well. Secrets have a way of working themselves to the surface.
I don't know, maybe I'm being idealistic, but I would rather be with someone who loved me a little for everything I am, than someone who loved me desperately for only 70% of what I am, and would be horrified by the rest.
:yes: I post more on other forums about my personal problems, but that's because the forums are hidden to guests and don't come up in Google.
About 4 years ago, a friend of mine introduced to here and he warned me that he may come across some of my posts. What I didn't realise was that he'd read a rant I'd made which caused some problems for us.:( For this reason, I tend not to post about problems on here.
Makes no difference.
And apart from the fact that I really don't have much to complain about, which I couldn't very easily solve myself, I don't like to post about trivial stuff, which has no real solution and it just asks for buckling up and accepting it (Like: my partner watches porn and I can't deal with it-stuff) and about real grave problems, because I don't want people to see my weak side.
I dont really see it as a secret. If I was asked outright by a close friend or my boyfriend whether I took part in any messageboards I would be honest. But it's purely on a need to know basis. I dont know everything about his online life and trust him enough so that I wouldn't need to. To me, it's important to keep some things seperate and I know I'd feel worse if I was made to feel pressured to divulge every little routine of mine to someone.
For the same reason Rich loves me and thousands of people across the world love people who have the same/similar/worse pasts. Because they love who you are now. BUT what happens if, on the off chance, something happens which puts you back in that place? Wouldn't it be better that he understood and was able to support you? And, iirc, it WASN'T your past when you first started seeing him. So what if he worries? Just tell him straight and let him know that if you ever did feel that way again, he'd be the first to know. It is/was a big part of your life that has shaped the person you are now and if I was him I would be so hurt that you'd kept such a huge part of your life from me.
Also, nobody is saying you should go out of your way to tell him all about this place, but actively hiding it whenever he comes in the room shows such a lack of trust. What makes you think he would go looking? All you'd have to do if he did ask is say "it's just a website I go on, it's got some kinda private stuff on there so I'd prefer if you didn't look for me". If he loves you he'll do as you say.
Nah I've been around for years, I was 15 when I first joined up, post count was well high before they all got deleted.