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Need somewhere to stay in London
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I moved in with my boyfriend in London a month ago and I need to move out because I am very unhappy living there and I don't want to be with him anymore.
Aside all other things, he snores every night, waking me up every night, and if I nudge him he screams literally like a baby at me which is not only infuriating, but also disturbing.
I'm at breaking point here.
I am unemployed but I am trying to claim JSA and trying desperately to find work in London.
I basically need somewhere to stay that charges nothing or next to nothing until I can get my own place, and a job in order to fund my new place.
Before anyone asks, I don't have any friends or family I could stay with, not permanently.
Thanks for reading
Aside all other things, he snores every night, waking me up every night, and if I nudge him he screams literally like a baby at me which is not only infuriating, but also disturbing.
I'm at breaking point here.
I am unemployed but I am trying to claim JSA and trying desperately to find work in London.
I basically need somewhere to stay that charges nothing or next to nothing until I can get my own place, and a job in order to fund my new place.
Before anyone asks, I don't have any friends or family I could stay with, not permanently.
Thanks for reading
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There is no 'putting up with' that, and I'm not sure why SCC decided to say 'find another boyfriend and move in' unless there is some past history I don't know about. Either way it's not really an appropriate comment for someone coming to ask for advice and help, someone shouldn't have to rely on having to stay with a partner they don't want to be with just because the other option is homelessness.
It sounds like you've found yourself in a very difficult situation, and I just wanted to say if you want to talk in depth about your relationship problems and get advice about that aspect, you'll find lots of friendly ears on the Relationship boards.
And on the housing thing, there's loads of information and many links on this Site.org advice page. In any case, it sounds like staying on good terms with your ex(?) might be a good idea in case of emergency. What's the situation now; do you want to update us?
I hope things are looking up.
Soph
You say that you don't have any friends or family members that you could stay with permanently, but then, you're not going to find somewhere to stay that costs nothing on a permanently basis either.
I wonder if I should have posted anonymously.
Anyway, Soph asked for an update so here goes.
At the mo I'm still living with him. It's not so bad because I'm pretending to myself that everything is okay and half-believing that once I'm working I'll be happy with him again.
I've got a couple of job interviews coming up and I'm going to try to sign on tomorrow but it's a bit difficult as he doesn't want me giving the jc our address and even if you tell them you're NFA they still ask you to write down where you are staying, which is unacceptable to him.
Can't really go into details but he's on income support and not claiming it on wholly fair terms and he thinks that by me giving them the address it'll open a can of worms for him.
I'm going to have a break next weekend as it's my mum's birthday and I'm going to stay with her and go to the seaside.
Right now I just feel very anxious, sad, lonely and depressed. It's hot and sunny and I'm indoors most of the time. In summers past I've usually been with friends at pub beer gardens, BBQs and festivals. I'm hoping next weekend I'll cheer up a bit.
Half of me feels like I don't want to live in London anymore and I should move back in with my mum but the other half wants me to be independent and see what this great City has to offer.
Enjoy yourself at the seaside
toooshayy!
(touché really but yno)
Aww thanks for that. I had my jsa interview and it seemed to go fairly smoothly, time will tell though. I have a job interview on Monday morning so I'm hoping I get that.
Thanks for the link, I will have a look. A few months ago I was quite motivated to go out and do things by myself, I did a PTLLS course, loads of voluntary work and joined a gym but a few bad things happened to me so I gave up.
Anyway I'm going to try and get some voluntary work now.
I'm hoping all this will lead to sorting my situation out and help me feel my normal self again.
Thanks again for your support Soph and everyone else.