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Hi. New to the forum.
I recently joined a dating site called . I used to be on it before but deleted my profile as I got bored of not receiving any replies.
I rejoined because I feel lonely, and I guess what you call, desperate for a girlfriend. I don't want to be lonely any more. I want a relationship!
I have this on my profile what I like and what sort of girl I'm looking for.
"I re-joined this site to try again and because I can't seem to find a girlfriend face-to-face and probably because I'm shy.
I am caring, loving and I'm a good listener. I have been told that I'm sweet and cute. I am in full-time employment, working in Skipton. I'm looking for another job. I would like to work for the MoD but I can't find anything.
I'm interested in photography, cycling, walking in the Yorks Dales, computing and two other hobbies which I know you won't be interested in. I enjoy a wide variety of music and films.
I'm looking for someone who is between 19 and 26 who is caring, lovable, trustworthy, doesn't cheat, is open to new ideas/hobbies and has a good sense of humour. Maybe we could work together and try and turn me un-shy!
If we get along ok, maybe we could turn it into a serious relationship and settle down with each other. But of course we have to get to know each and date for quite a while.
I know that I may not be prince charming, but surely there must be SOMEONE who lives near me who likes me for who I am and even thinks "Hey he's cute/good-looking. I want to get to know him".
If you think I'm interesting, then please send me a message.:) "
I think it is better that what I've wrote in the past. Others have been lame and sooo boring.
So ladies, what would you say about what I've wrote for my profile?
I recently joined a dating site called . I used to be on it before but deleted my profile as I got bored of not receiving any replies.
I rejoined because I feel lonely, and I guess what you call, desperate for a girlfriend. I don't want to be lonely any more. I want a relationship!
I have this on my profile what I like and what sort of girl I'm looking for.
"I re-joined this site to try again and because I can't seem to find a girlfriend face-to-face and probably because I'm shy.
I am caring, loving and I'm a good listener. I have been told that I'm sweet and cute. I am in full-time employment, working in Skipton. I'm looking for another job. I would like to work for the MoD but I can't find anything.
I'm interested in photography, cycling, walking in the Yorks Dales, computing and two other hobbies which I know you won't be interested in. I enjoy a wide variety of music and films.
I'm looking for someone who is between 19 and 26 who is caring, lovable, trustworthy, doesn't cheat, is open to new ideas/hobbies and has a good sense of humour. Maybe we could work together and try and turn me un-shy!
If we get along ok, maybe we could turn it into a serious relationship and settle down with each other. But of course we have to get to know each and date for quite a while.
I know that I may not be prince charming, but surely there must be SOMEONE who lives near me who likes me for who I am and even thinks "Hey he's cute/good-looking. I want to get to know him".
If you think I'm interesting, then please send me a message.:) "
I think it is better that what I've wrote in the past. Others have been lame and sooo boring.
So ladies, what would you say about what I've wrote for my profile?
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When you say you want to work for the MoD and can't find anything. Maybe say something which shows a bit more confidence, like 'I hope to work for the MoD one day'. Just seems to show a bit more ambition than 'I can't'.
You sound like a nice decent guy, my main impression would be you don't seem to be too eager to sell your qualities. I'm not too great at that either, but I'm sure other posters will have some more suggestions for you.
Good luck with it and let us know how you get on :thumb:
If i were you i'd leave out the bits about 'i cant seem to find a girlfriend face to face' and 'If we get along ok, maybe we could turn it into a serious relationship and settle down with each other. But of course we have to get to know each and date for quite a while. I know that I may not be prince charming, but surely there must be SOMEONE who lives near me who likes me for who I am and even thinks "Hey he's cute/good-looking. I want to get to know him".'
I think if you just keep to talking about yourself but try to seem too needy or trying to hard, it'll put girls off otherwise
Also, keep contacting others on there. Some may not reply, but they do say it's a numbers game.
I would never put that in there. Nobody says about himself "I don't give a crap about you, I'm nasty and I don't listen to your needs."
It's just such an empty description of oneself that it actually comes over as negative. That people who don't really have anything interesting about them, describe themselves with adjectives that every person should have as a basis.
One message recieved on the website. She lives nearly 20 miles away....well 18.5miles. I wish someone close would send me a message!
Reading through again, adding a bit more about the films and music you're interested in is an obvious way to grab a bit more interest and give people something more to respond to. I would say think of the profile as a work in progress, take on board that giving an overall impression of being a bit more confident and positive will certainly do no harm. Stick to something you feel comfortable with for now, but as you get responses and you become more confident, keep revising it.
Before she sent me a message I looked at her profile and found out where she lived. I think its a long way to drive, but since its the only girl I'm talking to, I might as well give it a go and see where it leads.
I've moved my hobbies up to a box headed 'Interests'.
And I have changed the part from where it says that "sweet and cute".
I have wrote this "I am in full-time employment, working in Skipton. I'm looking for another job. I would like to have a career in computers such as Webpage Design. My dream job is to work for the MoD one day."
Good luck anyway
xxx
Just changed my profile again
"This is the second time I have joined this site because no one was sending me any message. I also rejoined because since being off this site, I haven't found the right girl, probably because I'm shy.
I consider myself to be caring, loving, trustworthy and a good listener. I'm in full time employment working in Skipton. I'm looking for another job. I'm looking for something exciting. My dream job/career is to work for the MoD.
I have a few hobbies/interests these are photography, computers, cycling, driving, gaming (ps3), listening to Pop, HipHop, R'n'B, Celtic and Dance music. I enjoy watching old and new movies; Sci-Fi, Comedy, Adventure, Fantasy, Animated.
I'm looking for someone who is around my age, which is caring, trustworthy, doesn't cheat and has a good sense of humour. I would like someone who has a great smile. I would also like to meet someone who could try and turn me un-shy.
There must be someone near Keighley who likes me for who I am and maybe even thinks ?Hey, he;s cute/good-looking. I'd like to get to know him?. !!!
if you think your interested then please send me a message."
I'm still getting to know the lass (although I am having second thoughts about how far she lives! I'm from Keighley and she's from Heckmondwike!!!!!!!!).
Just got a message from her telling me I'm cute!
The message you want to send is that you're interesting. I agree with StrubbleS, I read your description and nothing about it made me keen to contact you.
After the changes your current opening statement is pure poison. It hints that there's something wrong with you and would encourage me to find somebody else to waste my time on.
I also don't fancy the 'doesn't cheat' and 'I would also like to meet someone who could try and turn me un-shy' parts in who you're looking for.
'There must be someone near Keighley who likes me for who I am'
Again, this is pure poison and supports the thought that you create with your opening statement.
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Try to create a feeling for who you are. You need a hook. For example in my profile I wrote that I had the 'best job in the world' and I received a lot of questions about that. I remember I also wrote I was a fireball that loved nothing more than to be lazy inbetween. That I was the type that switched between radio stations depending on the song playing.
For a while I also listed names of bands or series I liked, and would list some recent films I had seen and what I thought without giving away any spoilers. Also mentioned I enjoyed the gym and mountain biking and tried to animate it a bit.
Basically, I was trying to give people some conversation starters and give readers of my profile some sense if we'd have something in common.
My bloke contacted me first simply asking if I had hit the gym recently. We began exchanging messages about that and then moved on to uni, work, life, etc.
In your instance, is there anything in particular you like to photograph? Nature? Rust? The sunset? etc? What sort of cycling do you do? Do you go often or are you usually playing your ps3? (not a very positive hobby to a lot of girls btw
I think the employment part has improved as it could be interpreted that you're not going to settle for just any job.
Good luck!
"This is the second time I have joined this site because no one was sending me any message. I also rejoined because since being off this site, I haven't found the right girl, probably because I'm shy."
It kinda sets alarm bells ringing 'weirdo'.
Also (maybe it's just me) but I wouldn't contact you because you don't use the correct spellings or punctuation so try sorting that out too! I like clever men that can write!
I agree with the first bit.
But I didn't even notice any bad spelling or whatnot... Probably cos I can't spell myself.
It's probably just me then! Haha! I'm such a spelling/punctuation Nazi. That's what four years on a literature course has done to me! :no:
I'm nit-picky in other ways. Just I think it'd be hypocritical of me to judge people about spelling and stuff... But mostly I just don't notice it.
I'm just hoping that I meet this girl. She keeps calling me "sweet" "babe" "hunnie" and "hun".
Babe? I thought that was a pig?
Also, dont read anything into the nicknames, loads of people use them, its just a way of acknowledging someone. Babe and hun are on par with calling someone mate or pal
:sour:
But yes, that is true.
Please help. I need to keep her interested in me then she doesn't go with another guy.
What can I ask her/say to her?
Its time to go down on one knee and pop the question....
"Do you spit or swallow?"
Also get pissed and let beer do your talking - it's never let me down or lead me astray. :thumb:
Seriously the key with people is to ask open ended questions, that way they have to talk more and you get to just listen. You'll score brownie points and if you remember what she says and repeat it back few hours later you'll be laughing.
Show her you're not a wet blanket and you can be bit cheeky - no need to be shy guy when txting/emailing. :crazyeyes
Love it!
To the OP, I think you need to chill out a bit. Don't pin all your hopes either on this girl or the online thing in general. Without sounding harsh, to her you're probably just some nice sounding guy who's emailed her twice - whearas you're already panicking incase she goes and gets another guy.
I know somebody who used match.com for a while, she saw it as an extension of her social life rather than pinning all her hopes on it.
It's all developing your confidence, a few years ago I was really shy about appraoching girls and stuff (still am to an extent). Now when I go out with my mates I talk to anyone, male or female and just concentrate on having a good time and a good banter. The rest will come naturally.
Would imagine it'd be similar with the online thing, just ask questions and be interested in what she's saying and have fun getting to know girls, rather than thinking you have to get a girlfriend.
Bit of a foward question when I don't even know the girl. But still I guess its worth a try.
I don't drink much, if I do I try not to get pissed. I remember the last time I got pissed and I kept on touching a girls arse. She didn't like it. So I can be naughty.
What sort of 'open-ended' questions do you mean?