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do i need to tell my family?
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i knew i was bi a year ago and since then i've found a few really trustworthy people to tell. im a quaker and we are accepting of everyone so it wsn't hard but my dad isn't a quaker and since my mum and dad's divorce its got harder to talk to him or my stepmum. actually it was never that easy! but whenever im in the same room i kinda want to tell him cos its such a huge secret in my dad's house. my sister and my mum also know but do i need to tell my dad?
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so no, you are not obliged, but I think you are doing yourself a favor if you do.
The problem about coming out of the closet is that its damn hard getting back in again if you need to. But being bi is only an issue to tell anyone about, if you start a relationship of someone of the same sex and you wish to introduce them to the family. If you're not seeing a guy at the moment, then don't tell him. What you do in the privacy of your bedroom can stay private.
Personally, when I came out, I told my Mum first and then my Dad. It's always harder telling ones Dad. But he was cool about it, like he had always known. It must have been the pink bunny slippers (joking).
Dad, I like boys
WHAAAT?
I LIKE GIRLS TOO.
*phew* alright son.
:razz:
And as Teagan says, if you don't think you need to tell them you shouldn't feel guilty. I only told my dad once I was president of my uni's LGBT soc and it just came up.
If you're serious about being bi, then I say don't tell them. Most bisexuals later "turn" in later life. Guess you could say the same for most straight people though. It's kind of why I don't agree or wish to come out anytime soon.
Just remember that you don't need to prove anything to anyone, If your parents wont accept it, just wait. Don't stress over it.
OMG! When did you find the time to fit a boyfriend into your busy relationship schedule????
Why do you want to tell him anyway? There isn't any pressure on you to do so, hun. You're still at school, you still like girls ... I'm not sure what all the rush is about?