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Warrant for arrest...
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So my bf used to be a bad boy but he's really turned his life around, he's got a job, doesn't speed or anything. He's got a few criminal convictions, nothing spent in prison or anything but fines etc. Then about 6 years ago he was supposed to go to court for something but didn't turn up, his mates got off but he never turned up or was contacted or anything.
Anyway, the other day we were stopped in the street by the police as he was (REALLY STUPIDLY) smoking a joint in the street. Luckily I had put his weed in my bag and they didn't search me. He gave a fake name and address etc and they let him off and were quite nice.
I have never been so scared in my life. I've been naughty but I've got one of those faces butter wouldn't melt and have never been caught, arrested or anything.
What happens with a warrant? I know there's no statute of limitations and the only way that it can get cancelled is by owning up etc but he won't do that.
I don't know what the court date was for... nothing too serious I'd imagine and don't feel like asking but is there any way other than owning up that he can ever be free from this. I feel like we'll always have to be on the look out and he can't visit anywhere like the US or Canada etc.
Anyway, the other day we were stopped in the street by the police as he was (REALLY STUPIDLY) smoking a joint in the street. Luckily I had put his weed in my bag and they didn't search me. He gave a fake name and address etc and they let him off and were quite nice.
I have never been so scared in my life. I've been naughty but I've got one of those faces butter wouldn't melt and have never been caught, arrested or anything.
What happens with a warrant? I know there's no statute of limitations and the only way that it can get cancelled is by owning up etc but he won't do that.
I don't know what the court date was for... nothing too serious I'd imagine and don't feel like asking but is there any way other than owning up that he can ever be free from this. I feel like we'll always have to be on the look out and he can't visit anywhere like the US or Canada etc.
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Aside from owning up, the warrant will never be cancelled, so it'll affect foreign travel, buying a house and getting certain jobs.
I think it would make it worse because obviously he didn't turn up but he would have to go to court etc.
He's been really careful about jobs and things too, he works in sales and they don't have his home address or even a phone number for him there, and he already owns property but it's his parents and they have it in his name.
He told me last night it was for criminal damage like general vandalism stuff when he was about 18/19... seems so silly that he would drag it out like this. I wish that this wasn't the case but I REALLY don't want him to go to prison or anything.
It seems like his whole life is one big lie which isn't good, therefore, I think you should encourage him to hand himself in. Either way he can't hide from the law all his life, it will eventually catch up with him. At least then it's sorted and he can move on and live a normal life without having to watch his back on a daily basis.
Does he really want to live the rest of his life like this? Stuck in a neverending stream of sales jobs and other menial work? Do you really want a life where you aren't free to move around?
The amount of time and effort he is going to, to cover his tracks suggests he did something worse. Nobody goes to prison for minor vandalism, and nobody goes to so much effort to cover their tracks for it either, certainly not to the extent of falsifying details at work and living in a house belonging to someone else.
Either he is GROSSLY misinformed about what sort of sentence he would get, or he is lying to you and did something worse.
I may be completely wrong, but I am a suspicious fellow after all.
He has to decide what sort of life he wants.
A life of dead-end jobs, not being able to own a home and constantly looking over his shoulder. Or he does what he should have done 6 years ago and hand himself in and face the music like his mates did. At least if he does, it will be at a time and place convinient for him. These old warrants never die, every few months they get resurrected and an officer is assigned to do more digging. Everyone leaves a trail of some sort, it isn't difficult for a cop with some time to pick up a trail.
I could never make himself give himself in and I would always stand by him whatever happened (except murder though I doubt highly that it's that bad) because the person who he was then from what he's told me and from what his friends and family have said to who he is now is worlds apart.
That's doesn't mean it won't catch up with him though. If he gets arrested again, or wants to travel then that might sets off a few flags for the police - but then it may not. I've had mates skip court and nothing happen to them - the police have even missed it when they've been arrested at a later date for something else.
It comes down to whether or not you want it hanging over your head. I'd phone the gavers find out, and possibly arrange an arrest by appointment.
Well, no I shan't be in the future.... it was purely by chance because his pockets were full. And we HAD just been about to pick up some other stuff and I am SO glad I said that I wasn't in the mood. Else we would have been royally fucked.