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Sexually confused
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Ive posted so many things now you must be sick of me but i have alot to ask.
Over the past few months ive been getting confused. I have a boyfriend and when we play with each other i always wonder what its like to have my tongue inside another girl.
I feel attracted to the idea of having sex with a girl but of all the girls i know there arent many take i fancy.
I can pick out girls and say your hot. But i dont know how to pick up a girl. And having a boyfriend doesnt help.
But watching porn or just daydreaming its always lesbians and the thought of dick puts me off.
But i love my boyfriend and enjoy what we do.
Ive never even kissed a girl be i have a stronge want to.
I dont know what to do. I really would like to explore with a girl but how do i find a girl thats bisexual or lesbian at my age (14).
Id go with a girl thats 16, 17 at the oldest but its hard to find the girl.
In my oppinion i believe all girls are bisexual but some just dont know it.
Please help. What should i do?
Over the past few months ive been getting confused. I have a boyfriend and when we play with each other i always wonder what its like to have my tongue inside another girl.
I feel attracted to the idea of having sex with a girl but of all the girls i know there arent many take i fancy.
I can pick out girls and say your hot. But i dont know how to pick up a girl. And having a boyfriend doesnt help.
But watching porn or just daydreaming its always lesbians and the thought of dick puts me off.
But i love my boyfriend and enjoy what we do.
Ive never even kissed a girl be i have a stronge want to.
I dont know what to do. I really would like to explore with a girl but how do i find a girl thats bisexual or lesbian at my age (14).
Id go with a girl thats 16, 17 at the oldest but its hard to find the girl.
In my oppinion i believe all girls are bisexual but some just dont know it.
Please help. What should i do?
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Do you really love your boyfriend? Because if you do and you dont have any particularly feelings for girls, then i thnik its probably just a phase.
ANyway, id wait for some more advice, im not an expert on the subject.
if i remember rightly, you're 14, which is a time of raging hormones, and crazy stuff, i remember it all to well. But when i was 14, i fell in love with my best friend, and slept with her. - i'm not suggesting you do this! I later came out as bi, and have been ever since. I haven't yet had a relationship with another girl, but i have had a few liaisons that i've really enjoyed. But, i really really think you need to wait until your a little older to actively go out and search for someone. But if you do just come across someone and things kind of just happen then great...but make sure you aren't still in a relationship...some guys will just think its kinky, other will hate you forever - they won't they never do, but it will hurt them deeply, and its the most horrific thing to watch someone you once loved fall to bits because of your own doing.
experimentation is good, but seriously think it through and watch out for yourself!
Well to answer your question, I started thinking about girls sexually when i was 12, and kissed a girl for the first time when I was 15. So there is every reason to suspect that it may not just be a phase.
Can you discuss this with your friends - would they be open minded enough? One thing I would recommend is not doing anything while you have a boyfriend - would you kiss a boy if you were in a relationship? But think over your feelings - they could be hormones, but equally they could be genuine sexual feelings. I think that 14 might be a little young to decide this, but keep it in mind, and dont try to repress your feelings.
Having gone through exactly the same thing, I would be happy to talk if you wanna p.m me. There is a whole other interesting sub-culture - not just lesbian, but bi-sexual too, and it might be interesting to explore - it's nice to feel as if there are people out there that feel the same way you do.
Good luck! xx
I do love my boyfriend. But i dont find other guys attractive at all.
Sex with the opposite sex freaks me out abit when reading about it or seeing it in a movie.
But two girls is beautiful.
Girls my age are weird about that kinda thing. I told a few friends i think im bisexual and they said 'eww! thats so weird'' lol.
My boyfriend has said to me that i can explore with girls a little aslong as i tell him.
Hes very supportive about it.
In september i almost got into some thing with a good friend of mine.
When we slept at each others house wed othen see each other naked getting changed and stuff and shes bi. She has got with girls.
And i was talking to her about it 1 day.
I went home thinking about it and i texted her. Her mum saw the text and freaked out.
Now she cant talk to me any more.
Whats wrong with it?
Why did her mum freak out i dont understand!
Unless you split up with your boyfriend, it will be unfair to 'do' anything with another person, whether they are male or female.
There is a lot of pressure on young people to have a relationship when, in fact, it may be more beneficial to their personal growth to actually take time out to experience the world and try to understand their feelings.
But the long and the short of it is that you're completely normal. Yay! :thumb: But don't do anything with your feelings for women until you are single again, and are free to experiment.
I dont think were gonna break up anytime soon so i wont get to experiment.
Just don't do anything stupid, because exploring with a girl is still cheating on your b/f. So chose your priorities first and just do whatever you want. The confusion will end and you'll know what you want then. Be it A or B or A and B.
Why would he be hurt? It is not a slur against his masculinity. If you are a lesbian, it's not a choice but what you are. Denying your lesbianism is like denying the colour of your eyes. He may be very sad that the woman he loves cannot love him in the same way back but, hey, that's life and it should never stop you in being who you are and pursuing your own happiness.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART BE TRUE TO YOURSELF +DONT CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK I DON'T +U KNOW IM BISEXUAL X
You only go as far asu feel comftable i kiss girls etc finaly went al the way fri +oh my god fcukin amazing even though one nite thing it is hard for girls apart from obv tomboys +im a girly girly too
So maybe experimenting with lesbian porn and having your boyfriend with you might get you both comming and enjoying it to.
Dont be discoursged to let your bf know. its how you truely feel, and who knows you may benefit from it in the long run...
I dunno what to do really. I've never got to do anything but id love to try.
Itd be unfair on my bf though.
Hes very paranoid.
on another note, im sure everyone at some point has thought about experimenting sexually with the same sex. myself included, though emotionally....nope. do you feel the same way?
And males are designed to attract the female animal. Just so you know.
It's called the objectification of the female form and the reason almost all girls seemed to be convinced that they're bisexual in these post-feminist times.
Itd be nice. I know how to make a girl happy cause I am one.
But with a guy I get confused.
Like whenevr I am happy hes not so then i become unhappy and hes happy.
How weird is that?
Girls are easyer to understand.
Guys to guys are easy to understand but sometimes the way girls act confuse guys
Hi hun how are you doing?yeah it is but it's also very firey and intense at some times too go follow your
i'm lucky enough that my bestfreind at the time felt the same so we experiment on eachover we used to sleep with eachover all the time mostly in the 6 weeks summer holidays in school,
we tried loads of stuff together...
i'm now in a strong loving honest relationship with a man who i love to peices and can honestly say if i didnt experiment whe i was 14 i think i would never of met him because i would still be experimenting
but i do still get thoughts of girl on girl action and watch the odd porno but apart from thoughts thats all i get because i know that all i want and love is men!!!!!
:yippe:
What the fuck?????? Upbringing? Explain, stupid woman.
Is there a reason you've bumped three different, rather old threads today, which have all coincidently been threads started by the forumer known as 'MonkeySpunk'?
:chin: yeah id noticed that too.
I wonder why?
If your online monkeyspunk how ru? Its been a while and how the feelings going? X