If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
Options
moving in together
BillieTheBot
Posts: 8,721 Bot
how soon is too soon to move in with your partner?
im not 100% sure im ready. we've been together 9/10 months and we are looking at moving in together in a few months time.
how soon did some of you wait until you moved in together?
im not 100% sure im ready. we've been together 9/10 months and we are looking at moving in together in a few months time.
how soon did some of you wait until you moved in together?
Beep boop. I'm a bot.
0
Comments
Only you will know if it is the right time or not.
It wasn't ideal at all, I know that now. It was definately too soon and it hasn't been easy. There's been conflict from the start and it got to the point where we decided that as soon as the lease was up, we'd be moving out seperately, because it was the only way we saw it working.
However things have changed since then. We've really grown as a couple and we reckon we're ready to carry on living together.
It's all about being able to give eachother your own space from time to time, aswell as being able to accept, sacrifice and compromise little things.
I worried it was too soon, but it was fine and we're together and stronger than ever more than 3 years later.
Yeah thats a good point :yes:
From you're other posts I get that money is tight atm so if it is more practical to move in with your bf and it makes more sense than do it. Just try not to think of the emotional factor of it and more the practical side.
I suppose you might find it really works for you two, if not once you're back on your feet you can find somewhere of your own.
If it feels right you will know. If you are not sure then dont force it...living together can make or break the relationship.
Though I have to say, being carefull not to pluck your eyebrows and toenails is just going ott. You live there, its what you do. If my boyfriend doesn't want to see me in my pjs andbeing all sexy using half a box of kleenex in the morning well he can just fuck off as thats what I do and you know they don't care about hiding themselves and having to pretend they are all prissy and cute all day!
:yes:
If it goes well, is it worth the risk??
I think it's actually pretty impossible to tell. There is just no comparison. Knowing someone over the Internet and coming clear with each others little quirks that only show in real life is a entirely different thing. The best ldr have proved to fail quickly in real life.
But what do you want? have an long distance relationship for the rest of your life? Go for it, and if it fails, then you know it wasn't meant to happen. It's better to get rid of it, if it's no good, instead of clinging to it, because it works so beautiful in theory, right?
Well this is the thing. I guess i am enjoying the "honeymoon period" so much. It has been such a build up since we met, its like we are 13 again
I just don't like the fact that living together will almost certainly put an end to that
im just scared we will get sick of each other, like, sick of each other's company. at the moment, we look forward to seeing each other and have a good time. i dont want want any of the exitement to disappear if you get me? just scared he will get bored of me and look elsewhere.
Feel completely the same!
We are getting on great and really enjoy seeing each other when we do. Both of us want more than long distance but maybe moving in together would be too much? I could just move close to her but it would make financial sense for both of us if we lived together.
Long distance not enough, moving in together too much. Like yourself i don't want to kill the excitement. In someways i feel if we move in it will start the clock on our relationship. Id be so gutted if it didn't work out.
If something annoys you, though, get it out in the begining. Like if he cuts his tonails in bed...Else it will just build and build and build as you watch them do it every single day and the rage will grow and burn and then you end up on Forensic Files.
I officially moved in after about 8 months, although tbh I never really went home after about the first 3 months. I guess it was kind of fast, by some people's standards, but it worked for me. I personally think the moving in stage will either make or break you as a couple, cause I don't think you really know someone until you live with them.
I don't get the thing about not wanting to be put off them though. If living with them is going to burst your bubble, then maybe your bubble is erring on the side of rose-tinted and fake. Men do burp and scratch themselves and pick their toes in bed, and girls poo and fart and look like crap in the morning, and if that kind of thing turns you off, then maybe humans aren't for you.
I like the thought of it because it would show that my partner is serious about me. On the other hand, the reality of it is not so appealing.
I don't wanna be in something that is fake but living together must add pressure to the relationship? like putting your lives together, having to talk like housemates and just generally being in each others space. It takes away the curiosity?
Maybe I'm not mature enough yet but it all seems a bit daunting. I don't think i would be put off by her and any habits that she has but the practicality of living together. From what i can see there would be a lot of disadvantages compared to advantages?
So is it just down to love?