fetish problem

Former Member

Hi everyone, just joined the forum as it looks like a good place to get sum advice with i problem i have.

im 22 years old and im a very nervous person due to bullying at school and
im still a virgin . ever since i was young i have found myself to be attracted to the bdsm lifestyle and have a strong fetish towards being dominated by a woman. I have been around girls before now but havent been able to get an erection when kissing them or being close to them. I have no problems when masturbating but the older i get the more i seem to worry. I have tried watching normal porn but it doesent seem to turn me on at all. I have been worrying about if i meet the right girl what will i do when it comes down to sex as i have troubles getting an erection under normal means. I cant really ask anyone in my family for advice as im scared of what they would think of me.

thanks

Former Member

Next time you kiss a girl, ask her to pin you, or act in a dominant way.

I find it hard to get turned on without a bit of dominance

Former Member

there is nothing wrong with the BDSM lifestyle (as long as its consentual, safe, and legal).

firstly i would say don't deny it. I tried to for a while as i thought it was wrong. But it isn't and your sexual and relationship choices are important, and you should try and develope them if they are within the law. BDSM is still legal, and there are many clubs accross the UK which cater for the BDSM crowd. Start off with something small, Torture Garden may be a bit daunting for you first experience on the fetish scene, but there are small local clubs. Start off with small things, looking at some porn and such thats does take your fancy, and maybe work up towards visiting a dominatrix if you feel that way inclined.

hope that helps a little...