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Would you ever Date and Asian guy?Not pakistani but Oriental

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
I do not see any asian male with white female relationships.

I usually see Black male and White female

and White male and asian female.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm a guy, so I can't answer that question. But I'd have no problem whatsoever dating an Asian woman.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    stargalaxy wrote: »
    I'm a guy, so I can't answer that question. But I'd have no problem whatsoever dating an Asian woman.

    well if you are white then that is pretty common for white males with asian females I see them around here alot.

    I never see the asian male with white females even rarer then that is asian male and black female.

    Is it because the asian male is perceived as less desirable
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    why not :)
    Yeah id have no problem dating someone who was asian.

    I went out on a 'date' with someone last night in fact who is from china. Both he and I were staying in the same hotel and he asked me out for dinner (when he saw me sitting in the rooftop cafe on my own!)
    Had a very good time.

    I dont think id have a problem dating someone of aany race
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Snerd wrote: »
    I do not see any asian male with white female relationships.

    I usually see Black male and White female

    and White male and asian female.

    I do see them occassionally. I think, in comparison to the numbers of other non-Causcasians in the country, there are quite a few less of them about so, perhaps, that's why you see less cross-ethinic (is that the right word?) relationships with them.

    And no, I wouldn't have an issue dating anyone 'Oriental'. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I see Asian (Pakistani) lads with white lasses all the time....although there is a big asian community in West Yorkshire.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I rarely see white males with asian females, i do see asian males with white females - a best mate of mind who is white, is going out with an asian male although i never think of it like that, i just see them as two young people very much in love (his parents refuse to see it that way unfortunately).
    I can't answer and say yeah i'd go out with an asian guy as i'm a guy myself but race isn't an issue with me. if it is for the other person then that's their problem. saying that though, until recently i always thought i wasn't allowed to find an asian girl attractive as when i was really young, asians - with the eclusion of orientals, as i found that i did see them dating other ethnic groups - tended to go out with other asians and i was always told by my asian friends that that was how it was. things have changed of course, with newer generations, more freedom and the like and i find that asians (again, with the exception of oriental people) feel more freedom to go out with whoever they please and that's the way it ought to be. So i feel less 'afraid' to find asian girls attractive and yes, although like my mate's boyfriend's parents', there are still old fashioned values harboured within some, not everyone is the same.

    I often don't look at couples and look at race, i.e. "oh there's a white girl with a black boy, or there's an asian girl with a white boy" so maybe there's more asian/white, asian/black relationships out there but to me, i try to be colour blind to all that. love is colourblind to me :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you don't see white females with Asian men, then you're not looking.

    What kind of weird question is this anyway? What does it matter?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm pretty certain Snerd is Asian and has some relationship issues related to race in the past. Just saying because the wording of the thread could imply a different type of poster, if you know what I mean.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I'm an oriental, Chinese guy, and i'v only ever gone out with white girls, so yep, it does happen. Although it is to a lesser extent from what I've noticed than oriental girls with white guys.
    Prob cos oriental guys tend to be less forward/out-going, tend to be shorter, and often family pressures too, to stick with your own race.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Snerd wrote: »
    I do not see any asian male with white female relationships.

    I usually see Black male and White female

    and White male and asian female.

    I wouldn't have a problem with dating an asian girl.


    Asian, male friends of mine are usually dating white women over here (diversity isn't THAT big around here, either)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well I'm an oriental, Chinese guy, and i'v only ever gone out with white girls, so yep, it does happen. Although it is to a lesser extent from what I've noticed than oriental girls with white guys.
    Prob cos oriental guys tend to be less forward/out-going, tend to be shorter, and often family pressures too, to stick with your own race.

    I have experienced racism like 3 times already and its only when I dated a white woman...I think I will not date them anymore not because I am not attracted because the burden of the families I have to go through...not one of them liked their daughters dating a asian guy or half asian mutt as they call it. How could one feel comfortable being with someone if the family hates your guts just cause you are different color? even if you treat their daughter well with all your heart?

    this is true about the family pressuring you to stick with your own...I was just dumped out of the blue by my girlfriend of 1 and 1/2 years she was at college here with me in California and she just sent me a text message a few weeoks ago and blocked me on email saying "I am sorry this is not gonna work out".

    I remember she used to talk to her father on the phone and she cried because her father saw her myspace and it had pictures of me with her and saying I love him...he found out cause one of her friends back home emailed her dad the pics and he said that she did not care for her parents and how could she date a guy like me... her parents never met me cause they lived on the other side of the country but she would always tell me nothing is wrong. I always get the short end of the stick. I am not even full asian I am half but her parents are from the south and they only want her to be with a white man, she was keeping me secret but we were in love and she just left me...the saddest part is she is still attending the College I go to but I haven't seen her for ever her friend told me she is dating some other guy he is a business major in South carolina he is the quintessential american white male tall, ex football player, blue eyes etc...her father loves the guy and hooked him up with her.

    In America you would not believe how much Racism and discrimination is still around its pathetic its year 2008.

    You know what they say Blood is thicker then water.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was gonna say, are you American by any chance? I'm certainly aware of this trend in America, or certainly this perception. There's some funny videos on youtube and stuff, but I can't help that think that the reason no white girls go out with [these] Asian guys, is because they spend all of their time whinging about how no white women go out with them and posting videos on Youtube about white men "stealing" their girls, rather than actually socialising and asking anyone out. I suspect it's not even close to being the case for most Asian men. It's like anything else. If a short guy can't get a girlfriend, he might blame it on the fact that he's short. It doesn't make it the case, but if you believe you have something about you that puts women off, it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy. I can't speak for racist attitudes to interracial relationships in America, but I don't think it's as bad in Britain, except maybe among a few communities, which have particular racial tensions.

    My best mate is half Filipino, and I've never seen him or his brothers going out with a non-white girl. I've never seen his sister going out with a non-white guy though either. Not many ethnic minorities near me, so in most cases, it's a white person or nothing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was gonna say, are you American by any chance? I'm certainly aware of this trend in America, or certainly this perception. There's some funny videos on youtube and stuff, but I can't help that think that the reason no white girls go out with [these] Asian guys, is because they spend all of their time whinging about how no white women go out with them and posting videos on Youtube about white men "stealing" their girls, rather than actually socialising and asking anyone out. I suspect it's not even close to being the case for most Asian men. It's like anything else. If a short guy can't get a girlfriend, he might blame it on the fact that he's short. It doesn't make it the case, but if you believe you have something about you that puts women off, it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy. I can't speak for racist attitudes to interracial relationships in America, but I don't think it's as bad in Britain, except maybe among a few communities, which have particular racial tensions.

    My best mate is half Filipino, and I've never seen him or his brothers going out with a non-white girl. I've never seen his sister going out with a non-white guy though either. Not many ethnic minorities near me, so in most cases, it's a white person or nothing.

    I am half filipino half irish/Portuguese haha

    lol funny you already thought before that I was American...and yes the sad thing is what you guys see in the media about America is pretty much true. Many Americans with select few happen to be inconsiderate, materialistic and ignorant. The majority of people here are pretty much shallow yes we have many good people but they tend to be in certain sections you go tot he colleges here and other hangouts and the young 20 somethings tend to be meathead jock guys screaming Ultimate fighting, homophobes, and frat boy types who make fun of intellectuals or anyone who is not buff or packing a 6 pack.

    I think that is why it is kinda hard for asian guys in America cause the media perceives them as weak...media runs what women like here sadly...I could go through 5 year periods and name you the trends...a few years back it was dark skin black guys that was in because of MTV and gangsta rap...well now its Lil wayne all these suburban white girls like him for some reason because the media put him everywhere and that fame makes him attractive.

    Now it is meat heads and bimbos who like ultimate fighting that is in now...so many of the women in america do not think on their own or have any kinda values, ethics or principles anymore seems everyone is in a pack of followers.

    It used to be like that only in highschool and once you go to college you become an individual but it is not the case anymore you see people still in there late 20s and early 30s acting like they are still in highschool.

    :rolleyes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I cant believe the OP thinks it is a worry for people. But hey perhaps Im being naive!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    "I have no criteria for sex or race,
    I just wanna hear your voice, I just wanna see your face"

    Ani Difranco

    Yes, I would certainly date anyone, regardless of skin colour if I liked them. Fortunately my Mum is very liberal about that and brought Chaos and I up not to hold biggoted attitudes against people from different ethnic backgrounds.

    I am sorry that families have treated you bad mate... That's pretty crappy for ya. I have a mate in the States who has told me how some women feel intimidated about him because he is African American and they have bad perceptions of him.... but he's really sound. It's pretty stupid really.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    "I have no criteria for sex or race,
    I just wanna hear your voice, I just wanna see your face"

    Ani Difranco

    Yes, I would certainly date anyone, regardless of skin colour if I liked them. Fortunately my Mum is very liberal about that and brought Chaos and I up not to hold biggoted attitudes against people from different ethnic backgrounds.

    I am sorry that families have treated you bad mate... That's pretty crappy for ya. I have a mate in the States who has told me how some women feel intimidated about him because he is African American and they have bad perceptions of him.... but he's really sound. It's pretty stupid really.

    love that quote.

    its messed up because I fell in love with this girl but she couldnt go against her family and friends back home.

    She basically threw away what we had because of it...For me my folks always told me just be with someone you truly love and thats all that matters no one else opinion if the person is the one for you and you guys love each other then nothing anyone else say matters.

    My mom keeps telling me she never loved me and is not the one for me if she was an adult and knows I am a good person and loves her she would follower her heart.

    My mom married a filipino guy and her parents never wanted her too but she went with her heart and said she never regretted one moment she would of never had her kids and I wouldnt be alive lol if she didnt.
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