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How to ask a girl out
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rightio, about a 3 weeks ago i broke up with my gf (now ex)
well
tbh, she broke up with me, i spent 1 week at home just sitting around doing nothing cos i felt shit about myself, the next week i started to go out and have a laugh with me friends, last week i went on holiday and i've now started to feel better about myself and that my ex probaly had a good reason to break up with me
any way more to the point i've fallen for a girl that i've been friends with for a while, when i was in a relasitionship i knew i had feelings for her but because i was with someone i didn't act on it, i now have spent a bit of time with her but none since i got back, i think she knows i have feelings for her but i don't know whether she feels the same way about me
I just really wanted a few tips on how to approch asking her out, i've worked out from past experinces not to use chat up lines and to be myself around her but other than that i've not really got much experince asking girls out
any tips would be great
well
tbh, she broke up with me, i spent 1 week at home just sitting around doing nothing cos i felt shit about myself, the next week i started to go out and have a laugh with me friends, last week i went on holiday and i've now started to feel better about myself and that my ex probaly had a good reason to break up with me
any way more to the point i've fallen for a girl that i've been friends with for a while, when i was in a relasitionship i knew i had feelings for her but because i was with someone i didn't act on it, i now have spent a bit of time with her but none since i got back, i think she knows i have feelings for her but i don't know whether she feels the same way about me
I just really wanted a few tips on how to approch asking her out, i've worked out from past experinces not to use chat up lines and to be myself around her but other than that i've not really got much experince asking girls out
any tips would be great
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(I fucked things up with a girl I slept with this weekend by telling her today I really liked her and wanted to date her, this freaked her out so now she wants to just be friends, whereas if I hadn't said anything we'd have maybe carried on with whatever was going on).
considering that i'm 16 i'm not sure how well that would go
fair enough
is that so hard?
I took my first love to Pizza Hut for our 1 year anniversary. :thumb:
Yup - sometimes the best way is to just let things happen. Saying that, it's been YEARS since I actually said anything along the lines of "i'd like to date you" etc etc. I think I left that behind at college. At 17.
Just go with the flow, and if things will happen, they will. Always the best way, IMO.
Also, if you do it that way, it's done very casually, and so the initial time spent together isn't too often which means you are able to date multiple partners; always the way I liked it as I was rarely looking for anything serious. If something then developed with one girl in particular, I was then able to break things off with the others without too much heart ache. I think this happened three times in the last 6 years, so it's a good tack if you're wanting to, err, keep your options open.
I like you. Do you like me?
:yes: I find that very respectable - having the courage to say it. As a lass, I would find that easy to respond to with a certain yes or a round about thing about just being friends. And then if things feel comfortable you should be able to laugh things off and arrange a night out or let it diffuse itself.
Too the point is best - not mess about it's annoying! :razz:
Ashley I like you. Do you like me?
Yes I do. Shall we fuck?
:chin: doesn't work with typing :no:
Off-topic, I love going to dinners with people, either expensive dinner dates with girls who are nice that I pay for a nice meal, or with friends where we split the bill, then I take the receipt and expense the whole thing as a client dinner
:yes: everyone has a different way of asking someone out, as you can see from above. none of them are wrong..as long as you have a point to what you say it doesnt matter. something as easy as.." hey, fancy goin out for a coffee sometime?" short, simple and to the point.
Thanks for the advice all
just another quick question
is there anyway to help build my confidnce before i ask her?
I no i should have asked her by now but i wanna do it in person rather than msn or phone etc
and before anyone says some alchole, i'm an ass when i'm drunk and i wanna make a good impression when i ask her
Otherwise if it doesn't look like things are going well and it all turns a bit akward then your probably not made for each other.
Your only other option could be to talk to her and if things are going well launch yourself at her at a teenage party (do people still have those?)
Girls are human too. Just be yourself and act naturally.