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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
ok on one side of the coin i have my devout catholic mother who thinks im still a virgin (ha!) and strongly disagrees with sex before marriage - she never talked to me about puberty, sex, or even periods
on the other side of the coin are my boyfriends parents who seem to be the opposite of my mother - they openly talk about sex to my bf and even brought a 'do not disturb' sign for his door!

im really fustrated that i cant talk to my own mother about these things ive tried so many times but she ends up shouting at me - she believes that you shouldnt talk about sex with your family probably because it was taboo with her own parents
anyone have this problem? its really getting me down cos i dont feel as close to her as i used to <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="frown"> and are there anyways i can try to solve this??

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not especially, she was brought up to beleive that sex is bad and talking about sex is worse. Typical Catholic (and so says one whos suffered a Catholic education).

    You could ask her about periods and stuff if youve got a problem, but its unlikely that your mum will suddenly become liberal. Sorry <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="frown">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That bad, i feel for u. Mymum aint as bad as that, and she said she would even buy my condoms! Arrragghhh! But she belives in sex after 16 with the right person!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Only time will make a difference, go_away, and I mean a long, long time. Even then, it isn't guaranteed. That's simply part of who your mother is, and changing who a person is isn't something that usually happens quickly.

    Basically, over the years you can slowly build up a deeper and deeper communication with your mother, but that's about all. As you get older and more experienced in many things, she'll (probably) naturally listen to you more and take on board your own thinking.

    Then again, some parents never learn to respect their children's ways and always view their own ways as being better and smarter. That's people for you.

    So, what you can do, is find a confidant. Someone that you trust like your own mother (maybe another family member) who is more open and willing to talk about the things you need to than your mother may sometimes feel is 'right and proper'.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi i agree with black knight. u should talk to someone else who u trust instead of ur mum who will probably end up shouting her head of telling u its rude and disgusting to talk about it. once some issue becomes a taboo its going to remain that way for the rest of ur lif. anyway what about J17 and J 19 s? they often give v good advise and info.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm sorry but it seams like the sterotypical catholic. sex is a no no! even in most cristian homes sex befor marraige is frowned upon <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> but thats not to say it should stop u 'loving' ur b/f. Its time that religion came upto date with todays social behaviour and attitudes towards sex
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Listen to tell you the truth I would absolutley hate my mum and dad to talk to me about sex I would be phsyically sick all over them!! I think if they dont talk to me about it I would be so happy!! <IMG SRC="cool.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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