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he has police checked my partner without his consent and also has asked a police friend of his to keep checking my partners house to see if i have moved in there yet!
Can you make a complaint to his superior if hes abusing privileges?
tbh, the only reason they want to make women put the fathers down on birth certificates is to save money in benefits for women who may previously have claimed to not know the father. Not out of caring about any childs birthright or welfare. You could put any willing guy on the birth certificate. Its not like theyre asking for a DNA test
Exactly. They can't make you really. What if you can't remember who you've slept with? (by you I obviously mean 'one' not 'you' personally Katralla)
Not you can't. Yes they are.
They'll have to proove it apparently, though I'm not sure how that
Here's more details
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/2067197/Mothers-to-name-child's-father-on-birth-certificate.html
I think it's a good idea for all concerned.
not legally you cant, but i really dont think theyre going to demand a DNA test for every birth registration
why not? i think its a great idea.
nor am i to be honest. he was always a bit controlling so it makes perfect sense that he is now trying to use 'the law' over me!
well he wont win!
it was the 20 week scan yesterday....he didnt even turn up! all the fuss he has made and he didnt even bother to turn up to the scan...some father he is going to be!
A baby
(I tried to fight it, honestly I did but the urge was too strong
nope the hospital wont tell us
but we are having a 4D one done in about 6 weeks so we will find out then :hyper:
Can someone explain the logic?
The ultrasound department told us it was because of the risk of people sueing if they got it wrong (which i thought was strange because they have ultra modern new scanning equipment) and also because some people might abort for the wrong sex.
My community midwife later told me that that was all bullshit and the real reason is the same people also offer private scans at the local private hospital for £100 a shot and thats why!
Some hospitals in areas where there is a large Asian community will not tell you which sex your baby is because in some Asian cultures there is a preference to for boys (all very long and complicated but to do with dowries and family politics). If a family find out its having a girl rather than a boy they abort the baby as they do not want girls.
This is much more common in India than it is in the UK but in some areas its increasing. Interestingly you are more likely to do this if your and educated family in an urban area as you have more money and access to technology. In some areas of the punjab amongst the urban elite only 300 girls are born for every 1000 boys - which is a really schocking statisitic.
There was even an advert (now banned) in india = which read "spend 5000 rupees now [on a scan] and save 50,000 rupees later [on a dowry]
This report - is based on the Indian experience but explains some of the issues a bit clearer.
Yes but it also absolves the NHS for responsibility for nasty deeds - i think its also why they dont' tell you the sex untill quite far into the pregnancy if they do so - because its easier to be sure but also towards the limit for abortions
its almost impossible to tell before 16 weeks. Even if you get a private sexing scan, thats the very earliest you can tell
3D is still images. 4D is moving image