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First time problems
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me and my gf have been together for say 3-4 months and we have been talking about having sex for a good month just waiting for the right tme. oh yeah were both virgins. anyway today it felt like the right time and her parents were out all day so we went up to her romm and well yeah. after a some making out i said are you sure your ready and she said yes. so we both got naked and i slipped on a condom and then was about to but i just couldnt get it in. i felt a little bit embarassed and started to lose my erection and well it all just went down hill. i actually wanted to die. she was very understanding and really great about it but i feel so shit. we both got dressed and went to eat some food and watch a movie and try to forget about the whole thing.
anyway now im really scared that when we try again ill be so nervous i wont be able to get an erection at all
has this ever happened to anyone its just really given my confdence a knock and im already really quite depressed atm for other reasons anyone got anything to say that might make me feel better or any tips for next time we try
anyway now im really scared that when we try again ill be so nervous i wont be able to get an erection at all
has this ever happened to anyone its just really given my confdence a knock and im already really quite depressed atm for other reasons anyone got anything to say that might make me feel better or any tips for next time we try
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I don't really have any great advice, apart from the usual cliches that are to ensure you're both really relaxed, and not to put too much pressure on it being a huge event. I think there's an article on thesite somewhere about first time sex, reading that'll will probably make you feel a bit less worried. If it happens again, it happens again, but practice makes perfect!
as kate said, just relax, take it slowly and yes...practice makes perfect!
Just take it slow, build up and make sure you're both very turned on and relaxed. Everything will just 'fall into place' :P
Have fun!
oh yh do you think we should wait a couple of weeks and then try or is it a jump straight back on the horse kinda thing lol
Seriously, most men have this problem, try not to panic or worry about doing it, as that can mean you lose an erection. If you try and enjoy it, have a laugh and you'll be fine in the end! Good Luck!:thumb: