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Hmm was I in the wrong?
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You may want to think about your relationship here or be more assertive.
You're not in the wrong, he is.
Thanks for your replies
To be fair though he has taken me for a weekend away before so hes not totally mean. But on the other hand I earn about 1/3 what he earns and he knows I have to pay for my tax, my MOT and my bloody petrol
Tell him straight - if he wants/need to borrow money you REALLY do not mind but please just ask and not be all stupid with it. Be assertive - he won't mess you around again!
I have his pin too in fairness but I might change it again though.
So, half the time you are paying to run his car... and he earns a lot more than you and you have your own car to run?
Sounds like somebody is definitely taking the mickey out of you. There is no way I would be asking my partner to cough up petrol money to run my car if I were in a much better position than they. If they offered some, I would potentially take it, but I wouldn't be trying to trick them to get some out of them.
I think this too. My boyfriend usually drives me back to university and I contribute to petrol money. But I'd rather just him say he needs some money for petrol rather than act like he doesn't have a card. It doesn't really sound malicious to me. Maybe he is just embarassed about the subject of money.
It's not the meanness that's the problem, it's the way he went about it. Why not just say 'do you mind paying for the petrol this time'? The plotting of a mini act to get your money out of you is just weird.
I take the point someone else made about him just being embarrassed about asking for money, which may be true, but you should be the one person he can be open and honest with, no fannying about.