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Male Bestfriend
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Fucking men!!
My best friend, who is a male, hosted this housewarming for his new place. We are all having a good time and as the night gets later some people decide to stay over. He is really the only man I truly trust, so I felt ok about sharing the room with him, he offered to sleep on the floor but I felt bad so we ended up sharing his bed. The heating was busted so I was shivering lol and we ended up cuddling, it was really nice. Then as he was holding me, he took my hand and was stroking it really softly and we fell asleep like that
(By the way neither of us had been drinking at all so all this happened while we were both sober)
Now fast forward a few weeks and we have BARELY spoken, I mean literally he has barely said a word to me since, I have tried to talk to him a few times on msn but he never replies. I havent been on msn in almost a week now, and I just dont know what to do.
Why is he acting so off with me? :chin: Its making me upset because after that night it made me see him differently.. in a good way..
I want to talk to him but dont know how to, I feel kinda mad actually because its not very nice to ignore me like this :crying: :no:
Help please x
My best friend, who is a male, hosted this housewarming for his new place. We are all having a good time and as the night gets later some people decide to stay over. He is really the only man I truly trust, so I felt ok about sharing the room with him, he offered to sleep on the floor but I felt bad so we ended up sharing his bed. The heating was busted so I was shivering lol and we ended up cuddling, it was really nice. Then as he was holding me, he took my hand and was stroking it really softly and we fell asleep like that
(By the way neither of us had been drinking at all so all this happened while we were both sober)Now fast forward a few weeks and we have BARELY spoken, I mean literally he has barely said a word to me since, I have tried to talk to him a few times on msn but he never replies. I havent been on msn in almost a week now, and I just dont know what to do.
Why is he acting so off with me? :chin: Its making me upset because after that night it made me see him differently.. in a good way..
I want to talk to him but dont know how to, I feel kinda mad actually because its not very nice to ignore me like this :crying: :no:
Help please x
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The ignoring side of things is just a male thing to do, i've done it on countless occasions when i don't know what to do or what to say. Don't mean it in a bad way, just some guys don't find it as easy to talk openly about these things.
Have you tried calling him? Go round to his maybe?
Yeah, deal with this in a proper manner, not on MSN. Ring him or go see him.
your right i should talk to him properly, its just awkward for me to just turn up at his, or just call him since we havent spoke in a good while, you know what I mean? Do you think I should just bite the bullet and call him? Im kinda scared lol:nervous:
Yeah i know the feeling
Go find out whats up!!
And come back and tell us
in reality i'm scared lol but i will do it.. in an hour or two lol
but i will,
its 'now or never' right?
Just don't go too .. erm .. deep? If you know what i mean. Just see how he is and all that and then if he seems comfortable chat about it.
It's hard maintaining a friendship with someone of the opposite sex, but it is possible. I have had the same male friend for 20 plus years.
All you can do is be honest with him and yourself and hope for the best.
sorry pixi, but OP, DON'T DO THAT.
just call him, and arrange to meet up...
Just phone him, what have you got to lose?
So I messaged him on msn, got totally blanked so.. yeah.. :chin:
I think you should just call, even if he does have a throat infection. Can tell your going a little crazy over this (which is normal). If you take the initiative and call him then all could be sorted in a few hours.
Upto you though at the end of the day.
Good luck.
now come on. Just because he isn't giving life signals every 2 minutes, you don't have to go ballistic. There surely is a good explanation for that. I'd have a bit more leniency for a mate. you know benefit of the doubt and stuff.
Don't do anything you might regret later. If he brushes you off, yeah, nothing lost.
Patience, ma'am.
Sadly it does sound as if your friend is avoiding contact with you which doesn't make him much of a good friend, therefore no loss. Sometimes men need space and it is best just to leave them alone but one month is more than enough time.
If I were you I would forget him. I read once that we are compatible with one in a hundred so there really are plenty of fish in the sea.
oh, ok, that's weird.
how frequently have you met up before?
Maybe you should really just call and say you will pop around his place, if he's trying to be evasive, demand an explanation. I mean, ok, it's very likely that this avoiding you is, because of what happened between you, but if doesn't man up and says what's up, squeeze it out of him.
:yes:
lmao nah.. but i wish i did now
Update: He has had a lot of crazy random stuff happen in his life and in mine and we are meeting up next week :yes:
My house mates have gone on holiday, so he is coming over for a day or so to keep me company.
I'm feeling relaxed about it, not worried or anything.
But, I just don't know the best way to play it??
I know its good that he is coming round though
finger's crossed for you, teagan