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my dads leaving
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my dads just told me that he's leaving my mum, hes moving to leistershire tomorow to be with an old fiance. Ive been expecting it for a while but now its actually happened its just such a shock i cant stop shaking. My mum only earns £7000 a year i dont know how shes going to manage, shes not exactly a practical person and i know its going to be up to me to sort things out like benefits and housing cos she cant really stay in a 3 bed house by herself and i just dont know where to start. Im away at uni till june so i cant even move in with her and help out, least not until then. I just feel totally lost i havent spoken to her yet im too scared, in the past 4 years ive had to get her through my sisters death and that was hard enough and now i just dont feel like i can face this.
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However, it sounds like your dad is a complete and utter cock. No offence. How he can leave someone he's been with for years and his own child, especially after losing another one of his other children. I know it's going to be extremely difficult, but take the advice given above and try to move on without him. Don't expect him back and try to focus on looking after yourself as well as your mum. Eventually it will feel much easier (although the pain will never completely go) and you'll realize you are both better off without him.
Can I ask, you said you had been expecting it, how exactly? Has he done this kind of thing before? Has he been saying he's going to do it?
And PLEASE PLEASE remember none of this is YOUR fault, a lot of people tend to end up blaming themselves unnecessarily, try not to get yourself into that kind of situation. Also, even if you feel ok, consider counselling, it can help to have someone you don't know to talk to.
As for money, you will be able to sort that out, unfortunately I know very little about that side of things. Is the house joint owned? Sell all your dads things if he's left them behind :razz: