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But yeah, if the doctor wants to do one your girlfriend is entitled to refuse, she doesnt have to do anything she doesnt want to.
I really didnt know this, she just went right ahead! Bloody charming!
I dont think YOU are within your rights to refuse the doctor doing one on HER, but your girlfriend is well within her rights to refuse if she doesnt want one done, but that really should be her decsion, not yours, and with no pressure from you if possible, because there will come a time when there will be doctors or midwives pretty much looking down there from every angle. Its just one of those things. Doesnt mean she has to agree to it if theres no real reason though but with all due respect, its her decision, not yours
When I first got pregnant, I was shocked, and didnt think it was the right time - just left college, my boyfriend supported me and said it is the right time, and now I've got a 7 week old girl and I wouldnt change her for the world, you'll love being a parent:)
The first V.E I got I was in labour.
Yes true, it is up to her! and i respect you to speak your mind with me if im wrong i just wanted to know there was a valid reason for it otherwise i dont see the point?
I just find it hard to accept some bloke doing that to her if im totally honest (my problem right) and your right ill let her decide. thats why i thought if there was alternative ways to ascertain what they need to know we could opt for that!
I definately wouldnt put her under no pressure, and if she goes to see a gynacologist for a general check up (which shes said she will do) then thats fine, but you do hear some horror storys about dodgy perv doctors (unlikely i know) so thats why i was asking the proper procedure so i could see it went like that.
but believe me she wouldnt let me decide for her, also english is not her first launguage which is why i try to help her even more so and find out information prior to events whatever they may be
Best get used to it, its something that she's going to have for the rest of her life, not just during the pregnancy. There are smear tests, fitting an IUD coil, other various examinations and obviously check-ups during pregnancy.
Doctors don't always carry out vaginal examinations but they generally only do them when they are necessary. If she is unhappy about a man carring it out she can usually ask to see a female doctor instead. Most male doctors prefer women to carry out vaginal examinations because of the modern threat of lawsuits.
Hope it all works out well for you.
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As for worrying about the pain, it's not THAT bad. There are alot of pain relief options and I believe if she wants an epidural she won't feel a thing.
As everyone has said, it's a scary thing but a wonderful thing to become a parent. I was 21 when I had my daughters and a lot of people were freaked out about it (not least, me :razz:) but I can't imagine life any other way. It's the best!
As for the vaginal exam, it's nothing. I had quite a few for various reasons and it was all very professional, done very quickly and inconspicuously (well as inconspicuously as possible, haha!)
The initial shock and fear has turned to excitment and happiness and ill pop down the docs tomorrow after work to book an appointment as shes not got a gp at the moment
Just hope everything goes well during the next 9 months with everything.
Hiya hun i think you should goto your doctors they can confirm if your pregnant with a wee sample and its free and 100% accurate,:)
tsk, ive got loads of em, and im still alive!!
I know but i don't really like children and i will have to give up my lifestyle and my job (or if i stay in it i will have to feel like i'm constantly not pulling my weight) and all my friends will be nice to me but secretly they will snipe about me behind my back about having terrible children and always having to make allowances for them.
But i guess watch this space or something - cos i've only got 4 years left till i'm a gereatric mother (which is so wrong because inside i'm still 15)