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stop being a wind up merchant!
I'm just curious as it could lend a slightly different angle on the 'complete trust' thing. Oh... and she's avoided the question twice now... Just got me ears pricked up
It's good to know as much as you can, eh?
I haven't avoided the question, just your posts as they aren't linked to the original topic, not meaning to be rude but could you please take this somewhere else, it's a bit annoying having to go through all your posts to get to some which are actually helpful.
Anyway, I can't remember exactly, I think it said a text had been sent at a certain time/date, I looked in the outbox and there was no text sent then, I just asked why he had deleted this then he said he'd been texting her.
I know your gonna say that doesn't sound like a trusting relationship, and I don't normally look that closely, but things had been a bit off with us for a couple of weeks before then and I just had a bad feeling about it, make of it what you will though I can predict exactly what you're going to say.
In your opinion. I don't want to be rude but you have given your opinon, and we're not going to agree on this so do you have to keep going on and on. All I wanted to know if people thought it was odd he was deleting these texts, I don't really care what you think of us looking through each others phones, that's not really what i'm asking about.
It was a completely valid question, and a moderator was happy enough it hadn't gone off topic (apart from the comment which she highlighted, which was fair enough).
Either way, I asked you the question in my first post. Not easy to see. :yeees:
Yes I did have to go on and on, as the thread had proceeded.
I still think your 'looking at his phone' is borderline scary, and is not trust in the slightest - more like keeping exact records! But I was right - you were doing some serious digging, which is not normal.
Ah well. Not important to me in the end. You carry on. It's not me who now doesn't trust their boyfriend. :eek2:
Nope - you've answered it now, and I was right. All done
So................. you didn't trust him. Yes, quite predictable.
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I've explained the situation, it's up to you what you believe, if you think it's scary, fair enough.
Now if you've nothing else that is of any use to add to this thread do you mind leaving it. Thank you.
No problem
I can tell your one of those people who once they have an opinion on something nothing is going to change it, you're always right in your help, and will force that opinion on everyone else, never seeing it from anybody elses view point.:banghead:
Anyway, last i'm saying about this.
If anyone else though can help it would be appreciated :yes:
Nah - not usually. I never force my opinion, always see and take into account the other view point, and do sometimes change it if there is suitable evidence or reasoning to show mine is inferior. Not in this case, nor Matt's.
Aye. Just as you would any other friend
I'm just playing now
So why is it bad?
And like I said before - your friends must be really different, because I know loads of people that are still good friends with people they used to be with, without any kind of hidden agenda.
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I knew I wasn't strange. Sbeshul, yes
Insecure in an "I love you" way is maybe coming and putting your arm round her when you see her talking to someone good-looking.
It's NOT getting paranoid because she happens to be talking to someone she obviously has something in common with, but obviously doesn't want to BE with else she still would be. There's a difference between still caring about someone in a relationship way and still caring about them in a friendship way. You need both for a relationship to work, but if the first goes a bit awry that doesn't mean the other has to disappear.
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Christ, Rich didn't even mind when I told him I was considering contacting one of the wankiest people I'd ever been out with. Because he knows that I love HIM and I want to be with HIM. Talking to an ex doesn't change the fact that you love each other and want to be with each other. You shouldn't NOT be friends with someone you probably have a lot in common with friendship-wise just because they're an ex.
I am aware of how stupid emotions are, but surely you can both use your logic to say that you're being stupid? I do it ALL the time. I'm the QUEEN of stupid emotions, butI know when I'm being stupid and I don't let it get in the way of Rich being friends with people or going out with certain people who I may not like.
See, I thought you were getting what I was saying til you said this.
Why would it mean that? Why could it not be that she just wants to be friends with him because if you've spent that long together, obviously you're going to have SOMETHING in common?
I know that in a lot of cases there are hidden agendas, but equally in a lot of cases people just want to be friends with people who've been a big part of their lives for a long time. You don't stop caring about people just like that even if you're not in love with them or wanting to be in a relationship anymore.