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Gay unrequited, long distance and confused..
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I'll keep this brief as i can. Im a guy and i met a guy i liked last march online. He invited me down last july and we had two consequetive nights of sex. I asked during the week if i could come again, and he said yes. but he didn't want to do what we had done again. I went down but when nothing happened and he kept me up when i was trying to sleep and i cracked and told him "i really liked him". he told me he didn't feel the same way and i was majorly hurt by this, next morning didn't speak much so decided i just had to drive all the way home :O Didn't speak for a month or two on and off after..
Anyway the confusion is how he relates to me, we talk late at night and even speak on the phone early hours. stated speaking again this new year and he was going on about this guy he likes and who just asked him out. So he has got a relationshop going, but confuses me by saying i should come move down and he can move in with me. Anyway we've talked, and he said "it might not be a good idea", just this last week of getting a hotel togther to meet up again, but to my suprise he actually brought it up after me mentioing he'd been looking at hotels and he wants to do it.. providing i pay becuase he dont have any money :O
Can you see the confusion i have? Someone please help...
xxx
Anyway the confusion is how he relates to me, we talk late at night and even speak on the phone early hours. stated speaking again this new year and he was going on about this guy he likes and who just asked him out. So he has got a relationshop going, but confuses me by saying i should come move down and he can move in with me. Anyway we've talked, and he said "it might not be a good idea", just this last week of getting a hotel togther to meet up again, but to my suprise he actually brought it up after me mentioing he'd been looking at hotels and he wants to do it.. providing i pay becuase he dont have any money :O
Can you see the confusion i have? Someone please help...
xxx
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It doesn't matter if he likes you - he's using you, playing on the fact that you obviously like him a lot.
Im probably going to go ahead with it anyway, and hope for the best. Even if it is just some casual fun. For now this is what have to look forward to i guess, no one else interests me.. lol
Thanks for all you advice
That's before we've hit on the trust issues that are inevitable should you and this guy start a relationship or the total lack of respect, dignity and humanity you have for his partner.
But i am keeping myself on the map, all this mess eh? i only met him for like 4/5 days in total in knowing him almost a year. But big things could come from this second meet. It could go tits up or i could have more fun... hopefully