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Facebook Pictures...DISCUSS!!!
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Im with my first boyfriend since having a facebook account and realised that there are so many pictures on it of me and him etc etc....looking into the future Im wondering what will happen when/if i split up with him...how will future boyfriends take it?! Any body has this create problems in other realtionships etc etc
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I broke up with my girlfriend a while back and all my photos of me was either with her or some of our friends who now hate me for breaking up with her!
so basically i had pics which reminded me of bad times,
so try getting some pics of ur self or with some friends!
pics don't always have to include ur other half!
Talk about creating problems that don't exist.
lol
all my pictures are of me and my friends out in town. my b.f does hate having his pitcture though and has the whole of 7 pictures on his profile
Pretty much what I did.
What about the photos ?
People go in and out of relationships... It's not abnormal to go out with somebody and then move on to a new relationship. It's not a bad thing to have a picture of you with a current partner.
Seriously... If they had an issue with something as silly as facebook, why would you want to be with somebody? It could be the start of a petty and posessive relationship.
Dunno, not really a classy thing to do to have reminders of you and your ex out there for all (including current partner) to see.
If a girlfriend had photos of an ex that would be one thing, if she kept one on top of the TV then i'd be mighty pissed.
I think most people accept we all have pasts, but we don't want reminders of it everywhere.
You arent in the hypothetical sitution you mention and even if you were, it wouldnt be an issue, you would just un-tag yourself.
There is nothing to DISCUSS!!!
Don't look at them if you have an issue with it.
At which point should you change it to 'in a relationship', because it immediately becomes public for anyone on Facebook you know. Is it too soon etc.
Or if you don't change the status, and you are a few weeks / months into the relationship, what does your other half think when your profile still professes you to be single.
Oh the horror.... (hmm, just realised there's not a suitable sarcastic smiley to insert just here.)
I can understand the OP's position - who hasn't Googled a crush or new b/f or g/f 'just to see' what they might find.
Everyone has skeletons in their closet. Unfortunately the same photo's that would have been left in a drawer to be forgotten about 5 years ago are now available forever on the internet thanks to social networking websites. If a person is truly that worried about what we say or who we're with, then they'd never have an Internet presence (or possibly leave the house and venture into the big wide world.)
I can only offer advice similar to what's been given already. Remove photo's that you can yourself. Untag others. Request your photo's are removed from other peoples profiles. But most of all, don't worry about it and live for the moment
And I somehow managed to avoid mass interrogation when I changed my facebook status. One of my friends actually had to remind me to do it thats how much my facebook relationship status concerns me :chin:
I hardly ever get on there, so havent got many pics on there, but my photoalbums are (unfortunatly) full of pics of exes-not because Im a freak you understand, but because my travelling etc and holidays has been with them, and just coz they mostly turned out to be fu**ers, I still went to those places and experienced those things, and I dont wanna forget the stuff Ive done. if that makes any sense.
haha, me too, my boyfriends still says single and mine says nothing at all, like it always has. i hate that whole changing it thing, its just for nosy people who would automatically be like oooh im gonna have a nosy at their new boyfriend/girlfriend (which i know because i've done it myself, haha) and also i had that the whole of your facebook friends would know when you break up. its stupid.
The only thing that once pissed me off is when one of my ex's tagged a photo of me and him kissing from about 8 months earlier (it had been up for months but I never tagged myself in it), right when I had just split with my bf of the time, and a week later I got this letter from aforementioned ex asking if we could make another go of it when I got back to the UK. I personally thought it was a bit of an arsehole-ish move concerning I had been loved up and happy, he certainly wouldn't of tagged it whilst I had a bf and course the dude I just split up with emailed asking how recent it was etc...is there something he should know.
To be honest, couply photo's from past relationships don't bother me. The two ex's I've had have changed their status' and sent me an acceptance email :yeees: Facebook knows I'm in a relationship before I do I swear.
I need to have your outlook on life lol!! I know you're right but sometimes a picture can tell a 1,000 and more words and it can lead you to doubt partners words/actions. I'm avoiding facebook from now on don't need the added hassle!
That is really really frightening.
That's not what I said.
A friend of mine used to have a picture of her and her ex up in her kitchen. I thought this was a little odd and certainly wouldn't like it if I was her boyfriend, but she didn't see the problem.
Is there really much difference?