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Just started a full time apprenticeship program, i get paid £90 a week which is £360 a month, but my mum and step dad want £140 a month plus i have to pay the phone/internet and line rental which will bring it up to about £180, i think thats really really unfair, its taking pretty much 50%+ of my whole earnings. Plus ive got a contract mobile phone / bus fairs and other little things like that which make it even more, so im being left with next to nothing!
I really don't know what to do, everytime i try & argue with them about it they always say well you can move out then...
I really don't know what to do, everytime i try & argue with them about it they always say well you can move out then...
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Also, i do not use the home phone at all.. i have a mobile with over 10 hours of minutes a month..
Perhaps if you want your space and still pay a similar amount look to see if any of your mates want to move out?
How old are you? What kind of job do you have?
bearing in mind that you do eat food that i assume you dont buy all of it, you use the heat and water in the house etc
what your parents are charging you is pretty good
i used to pay my mam £50 a week before i moved out
I'd say the overall amount they want is fair - what's isn't is that crappy £90 a week - are you studying to be a slave or something?
Why do you have to pay the phone bill - if you have internet then you can call around the world for almost free over the internet. I have an internet phone account that I put £10 every 120 days into and can call all over the world for free - when the 120 days is up I get charged 1p a minute until I next top up with £10. I can also use it to send free SMS as well all over the world.
However I would say if you are on such a low income what the heck you got a contract mobile phone for in the first place? Although I think mobile phone are pretty useful and essential these days I don't think there's many people with a contract phone that actually needs to be. If you're on £90 you should be on PAYG.
How long does the apprentiship last for?
The minimum wage doesn't apply to people doing apprenticeships as the company has to pay for training as well.
But bargain on the phone/internet issue. Just because the family don't use it as much as you do, isn't the point. The facility is there. One doesn't expect a reduction in one's TV bill 'cos you don't happen to watch every program on every channel.
Youve still got a hell of a lot more disposable income than most people.
welcome to life
roflmao
I pay £100 a month which does include food, but not things ike my internet which I pay for myself.
And it could be worse, when I was at uni living in halls I payed £411 a month and only got a bursery off £500 a month. So with the £90 I had to pay for travel to placements, food and whatever else I needed. You not as bad off as your making out to be fair!
It's much worse when you get a lot of money. Like, sell a car or something and they'll want £100 - £200 cut. You can see the $$ in their eyes. Which they then spend on themselves, obv!
Family? Why should they put themselves at any major financial disadvantage just because you are 'family? What do YOU do for them to ease their lives because you are 'family?
So you and your brother are both at uni but only you pay bard? That does sound unfair on the surface of it.
Did they help to pay for the car?
Just like family stuff. Have to do more chores at home because there's more people, and brother and sister work. At uni I only need to clean up after myself.
Not exactly. My brother has graduated now. But when he was at uni, he didn't have to. But now he's left, he's got a job and paying board, and mum expects me to pay as well even though I'm still at uni.
It was actually a motorbike and no
What ? Thats bad. Really bad tbh mate.
I don't think the amount the OP parents asking for is too bad on the surface. But I think they really should take into consideration the act he's making basically fuck all money and there having 50% of it.
My parents never took anythink off me, but still made sure I knew the value of money. So it wasn't a shock when I moved out and got a mortgage etc.
I've always paid board to my parents since I started working at 18, and its always been much cheaper to stay living at home then renting somewhere.
welcome to the real world.
may i also ask how old you are? i've been living like this since i was 16, i'm now 18 and will have to live like this till september...
the more responsiblities you take on, the less disposable income you have.
apprenticeship lasts for 8-12months, most of you would know it as a YTS if you'r a little older than me and that you dont get alot of money while you are doing it but its much better than doing college and geting £30 a week.
This way i earn
A qualification in what im doing
Forklift truck licence / driving liscence & lorry liscence
There are plenty of places near me that do free forklift courses
unemployment is like the highest in the country so you'd think it would be easier to find a job but there is no where, plus im just about the only english family on my street and out of a county population of just under a million only 34% of people in the city area are english which only 3 in 5, so all the foreigners are robbing all the manual jobs
As for OP, that does sound high to me, especially as you are on low wage. I plan to do what my Mum did for me, one days wages per week. So if you are earning £90, I would expect £18 per week in "keep".
What your parents seem to have forgotten is that they would be getting na-da if you weren't earning.
£165 council tax
£150 food
£50 Gas, water, electric
£100 on phones and broadband
£30 Sky
£120 petrol
£55 car insurance
e.t.c. e.t.c.
You're quite lucky, it's a high proportion of what you earn, no doubt but it's still quite low.
Its the way the world works.
Most people don't pay loads of board though, having to pay half of your wages in board is pretty harsh. It is cheaper than rent but normally it's something like a quarter. My mum charged me 1/3 I think and that was steep compared to what my friends were earning. But I was in a well paid job so it probably seemed more.
The way I see it, just compromise so you're paying your share of what you use, which you probably just need to do for the phone bill. And get a pay as you go phone! It really is amazing how much you save when you can't just keep using it. Unless you really really need it for some reason.
We have just decided to charge our Daughter Board now she is in permanant work. We have just this minute decided 10% of her wage, which we think is more than fair, so when her wage changes it will always be 10% regardless.