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Should I Go On Date
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I had an abortion 6 weeks ago and although my b/f said he'd be there for me after it and he'd look after me etc, we broke up a week after it when i caught him kissing my best friend :shocking: The last few weeks have been really hard and i've been doing my best to try and get over it all and move on, which is hard because we still live together and will do for the next few weeks.
Anyway i went out on sat and met someone new and he seems really nice and has asked me to go out on date with him, i really want to cause he seems so nice but half of me is terrified, i was with my ex 2 years and im scared to start anything new or get close to anyone after all my ex put me through..
I know its stupid but although half of me hates my ex for what way he treated me but i cant help still having feelings for him, and although i need to move on im really not sure if this is the best time to start anything with someone new. any advice would be appreciated..
Anyway i went out on sat and met someone new and he seems really nice and has asked me to go out on date with him, i really want to cause he seems so nice but half of me is terrified, i was with my ex 2 years and im scared to start anything new or get close to anyone after all my ex put me through..
I know its stupid but although half of me hates my ex for what way he treated me but i cant help still having feelings for him, and although i need to move on im really not sure if this is the best time to start anything with someone new. any advice would be appreciated..
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But why not give this guy a chance? You may have a nice time and it could take your mind off your ex. You don't have to have a serious relationship, you could just enjoy the date and see what happens.
Of course you still have feelings for your ex despite everything, only time will fade that.
I know its hard once youve been metaphorically shat on, to trust that not everyone will do the same, and tbh, you dont know if this guy will or wont - you certainly wont know unless you give it a go.
I hope it goes well for you.
Just remember - its only a date.
I hope that you have dumped the 'best' friend too. :rolleyes:
Men can be skanky but the amount of times I have read about how a girl's 'best friend' has copped off with her boyfriend, amazes me.
Anyway, yes! Have that date! It will be a plesant distraction and slowly edge you back into socialising again. :thumb:
Good for you. Don't worry about being terrified, it's perfectly natural if you've not been in the 'game' for a while, plus you've had some tough times lately. If he's a nice guy, I'm sure he'll pick up on the fact that you're nervous and try his best to put you at ease. Just try and relax and enjoy yourself... :thumb: