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My ex has a new gf!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
And I'm pissed off because I'm pissed off about it!!

We broke up (ok I dumped him) ages ago and I thought I was over him. Think I am really. But its just annoying that he's got off with someone else and I'm still single :banghead:

I know that sounds selfish, but does anyone know what I mean? Please tell me its normal.

Part of me's like "good for him" and part of me's just doesn't want him to have a gf when I havent found a guy yet. Some dumb competitive thing, I think.

End of ramble.

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's not uncommon, but I wouldn't say it was normal. You dumped him, you don't have any real right to feel this way.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im sure its normal although hes done nothing wrong obviously so if youre going to quietly seethe, make sure you dont let it show.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Perfectly natural feeling.

    It'll go soon but don't make the mistake of getting with someone your not too keen on just so you've got a partner too.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    kate- wrote: »
    Perfectly natural feeling.

    It'll go soon but don't make the mistake of getting with someone your not too keen on just so you've got a partner too.

    :yes: I think you always get a little pang when you see your ex with someone else, no matter how it ended.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kiezo wrote: »
    you don't have any real right to feel this way.

    I know I dont have any RIGHT, but hey since when are emotions logical? I know I'm being selfish and he's done nothing wrong & all that. I was just wondering if other people feel the same.

    Thanks for replying everyone :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :yes: i am in the exact same situation as you! i dont want him, but i dont like it that he has found someone before me when i was the one ending it with him!

    grrrr!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kiezo wrote: »
    It's not uncommon, but I wouldn't say it was normal. You dumped him, you don't have any real right to feel this way.

    I disagree. I think you have every right to feel this way - feel however you want to feel.

    What you don't have a right to do is act on it and give him hassle in that situation, but I'm sure you're not planning on doing that anyway.

    Everyone feels a little cross when they see their ex happy, I think, whatever the circumstances of the break-up. Just try to focus on your more magnanimous feelings and be happy for him, and like others have said, don't rush into a new relationship just out of competition!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Get over it.

    first you dump, then you whine.

    man up and carry on. all I can say to that, as mean as it might sound.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Pringle, I had that happening but the opposite way round. I had a girlfriend in 1996. We were both 17. She was my first, but she already had a number of boys before she met me.
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