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cant br arsed!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
edited March 27 in Work & Study
I used 2 b able 2 work really well. Whenever i got ne work 2 do, i was usually able 2 do it that nite wivout bin annoyed by it, or if not i finished it well b4 the deadline. Now i just seem 2 cant b arsed 2 work ne more. Wots goin on? I just cant motivate myself 2 work, n ne distraction n i wont b able 2 do ne more work that evenin. Is there nethin i can do?? Works gettin serious now wiv AS-levels n i cant carry on this way!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That happened me in uni, snpott. I went from super-student to last minute, lying-my-ass-off-to-get-extension girl. There were nights I had to sit up till morning, losing the will to live. I got depression, which I think had something to do with it, but there were days I just couldn't pull myself out of bed, never mind sit at the computer screen and write essays.

    I put my thesis together in a month. It's supposed to take at the least 6 months from the start of final year till April. Most of my year worked on theirs during the summer b4 that as well. I started in March. oops.

    Still, I got a 2:1 in my thesis, and a high 2:1 in my degree, so don't despair. You'll b OK. Every1 looses motivation at some stage. Get someone to nag you. My b/f withheld certain privilages unless I'd finished my work, now that's motivating <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">. Seriously, it worked. Get a friend to hound you, studying in pairs isn't bad either. There was a group of us ordered pizza and worked together...OK so you don't get a lot of work done, but it's better than nothing!

    Don't despair!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    oh, how familiar this sounds... i was always the one who could get away with doing very little work, and still getting As. but when i DID have work, i was a total perfectionist and made sure i did it to the best of my ability. suddenly in year 13, it all changed. well it was gradual... i can pinpoint when it started, i wont go into it all now. but my work piled up becuase i didnt have the motivation to tackle it, and my mind seemed to have skewed priorities on what i should do first. i ended up agonising for hours, and being so distressed and upset i'd come on the internet as much as possible to talk to my friends who would calm me down and try and help.

    didnt help matters that everything in my life seemed to be turned inside out and upside down this year. anyway it all got on top of me, what with one thing and another, and i became quite depressed too. the doctor diagnosed anxiety for the benefit of the exam board (i had to submit a doctors letter about that).. i didnt want to talk about the depression, so thats why i wasnt diagnosed. you cant guess at something like that if the person isnt willing to talk.

    so, unsurprisingly, i didnt do too well in my exams this june. luckily i'd done modular courses, and so a lot of my marks were safe. i ended up getting ACD overall, instead of the AAB i was predicted. i overcame the depression gradually, i found that not going to school from april up until this september helped... as well as talking to my friends and mum incessantly for long periods of time, since it all started about a year or so ago, i started a part time job in a supermarket. it gave me a lot of confidence, which i was lacking. and eventually i knew that i didnt want to spend my life in a supermarket, and that i did in fact want to go to uni. i had a rethink about the degree i wanted, and changed my mind from biochemistry to psychology. i was accepted for biochem, but to do psych at that uni i needed more grades. i could have gone elsewhere, but i had my heart set on cardiff... and so now im back at school, doing some retakes and another A level, and my aim is to get an A in the subject i retake and an A in this a level im doing this year, leaving me with AAAD. and then i'll be able to goto cardiff and do my psych degree and all will be well <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    if you have something to work for, its amazing the difference it makes. if you dont really want to do something, then youre not going to be too bothered. i knew deep down, even if i wasnt admitting it to myself, that i didnt want to do biochemistry. now i've found a subject im interested in, its different. my depression wasnt JUST the school, but that certainly triggered it and helped it last for as long as it has done.

    this sort of thing is more common than you'd think. just on this site, there's 3 of us so far that have experienced it. i was talking to a woman at work today about it in fact, her daughter experienced it at uni as well, total lack of motivation, just fed up with education and quite happy never to touch a book again. almost complete changes in people, like kaz said about changing from super-student to lazy one.

    anyway, sorry i've written so much, i just got carried away since i know how you both feel/felt <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; i think kaz had some good ideas... dont do what i did and leave it until after the exams, and when its too late. believe me, you'll regret not doing something about it when you had the chance!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

    Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.
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